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Recieving counselling

Cinnabar_wing

I was just wanting to ask advice from people who have recieved counselling/therapy etc. 
How do you know if you might have hit a wall with it and if it's worth doing anymore?

For background, I've had 4 session with a counsellor since October, whom I got on her waiting list just before I decided to go ahead with my ASD assessment. Before I started I told her about being in the middle of being assessed so she knew my situation from that I had previously stated.

My last appointment with her, I told her I had been confirmed with ASD, and she got very concerned I don't over research and fall into developing 'new traits' just because I read about them.  I understand her concern as I had heard about some people getting post-diagnosis skills loss, but I don't have time for any of that and am a little scared of unmasking anyway as I saw what I was when I did the assessment and I don't think anyone wants me to be that.

I've booked an appointment with her for after christmas as I was too busy before, but now I don't know what to say next time? She asked some questions to satisfy herself at the start about why I thought I was autistic, but I've been more dealing with the other baggage like childhood bullying and work anxiety, and not so much the ASD problems I face.

Now I don't know if I should hide that side as I don't think she wants to know as she's concerned about me throwing everything away I think? Is this what it's like talking to people? Trying to open up was so hard, now it feels it's better to seal it all away again? Or is this something that has to be worked through?

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  • I'll mention it again here:

    A lot of therapy is based around NT thinking. Mostly people want help to regulate their emotions.

    But if it is confusion that is dysregulating you because things don't make sense, this approach is just a sticking plaster and misses the point. You need to talk about the issues and understand them. Mostly they go slowly into the issues and not too deep to avoid upsetting emotions. But this is the opposite of what is needed, which is what you feel.

    Depth is what helped me, and I kind of took over. You can then process them in your own time once you understand. I showed little or no emotions in sessions, but always had at least one point to think about afterwards, which I then researched like crazy and came back with my conclusions at the next session.

    But my issue was burnout which had allowed lots of suppressed stuff out, then I got diagnosed to make it more confusing.

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  • I'll mention it again here:

    A lot of therapy is based around NT thinking. Mostly people want help to regulate their emotions.

    But if it is confusion that is dysregulating you because things don't make sense, this approach is just a sticking plaster and misses the point. You need to talk about the issues and understand them. Mostly they go slowly into the issues and not too deep to avoid upsetting emotions. But this is the opposite of what is needed, which is what you feel.

    Depth is what helped me, and I kind of took over. You can then process them in your own time once you understand. I showed little or no emotions in sessions, but always had at least one point to think about afterwards, which I then researched like crazy and came back with my conclusions at the next session.

    But my issue was burnout which had allowed lots of suppressed stuff out, then I got diagnosed to make it more confusing.

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