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Recieving counselling

Cinnabar_wing

I was just wanting to ask advice from people who have recieved counselling/therapy etc. 
How do you know if you might have hit a wall with it and if it's worth doing anymore?

For background, I've had 4 session with a counsellor since October, whom I got on her waiting list just before I decided to go ahead with my ASD assessment. Before I started I told her about being in the middle of being assessed so she knew my situation from that I had previously stated.

My last appointment with her, I told her I had been confirmed with ASD, and she got very concerned I don't over research and fall into developing 'new traits' just because I read about them.  I understand her concern as I had heard about some people getting post-diagnosis skills loss, but I don't have time for any of that and am a little scared of unmasking anyway as I saw what I was when I did the assessment and I don't think anyone wants me to be that.

I've booked an appointment with her for after christmas as I was too busy before, but now I don't know what to say next time? She asked some questions to satisfy herself at the start about why I thought I was autistic, but I've been more dealing with the other baggage like childhood bullying and work anxiety, and not so much the ASD problems I face.

Now I don't know if I should hide that side as I don't think she wants to know as she's concerned about me throwing everything away I think? Is this what it's like talking to people? Trying to open up was so hard, now it feels it's better to seal it all away again? Or is this something that has to be worked through?

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  • I'e been in and out of therapy most of my life from C-PTSD, ADHD and GAD. I don't think therapy works very well for me - mostly because it's based around CBT, which assumes your thought patterns are faulty, but they're not, with ND the thought patterns are just fine, they're different and dont need 'correcting;'. I made this realisation late into therapy and now know why I didnt actually work very well for me after all these years. I  just quickly picked up a sense that they would might as well be talking to someone else and not me, the advise kind of made sense, but didnt actually apply to me. I felt myself agreeing and going along with it as to not be awkward - at that moment, I knew this wasn't for me. Most therapy feels generic CBT - it just never quite hit the mark. 

  • in reply to JB33

    this!

    Like you say it assumes you can change the way you think. My experience of CBT is that I just end up with more rules to juggle and eventually burnout.

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