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Recieving counselling

Cinnabar_wing

I was just wanting to ask advice from people who have recieved counselling/therapy etc. 
How do you know if you might have hit a wall with it and if it's worth doing anymore?

For background, I've had 4 session with a counsellor since October, whom I got on her waiting list just before I decided to go ahead with my ASD assessment. Before I started I told her about being in the middle of being assessed so she knew my situation from that I had previously stated.

My last appointment with her, I told her I had been confirmed with ASD, and she got very concerned I don't over research and fall into developing 'new traits' just because I read about them.  I understand her concern as I had heard about some people getting post-diagnosis skills loss, but I don't have time for any of that and am a little scared of unmasking anyway as I saw what I was when I did the assessment and I don't think anyone wants me to be that.

I've booked an appointment with her for after christmas as I was too busy before, but now I don't know what to say next time? She asked some questions to satisfy herself at the start about why I thought I was autistic, but I've been more dealing with the other baggage like childhood bullying and work anxiety, and not so much the ASD problems I face.

Now I don't know if I should hide that side as I don't think she wants to know as she's concerned about me throwing everything away I think? Is this what it's like talking to people? Trying to open up was so hard, now it feels it's better to seal it all away again? Or is this something that has to be worked through?

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  • I’ve been seeing a new therapist now for a couple of months once a week. I was seeing a different therapist before for about a year who it felt like I’d told everything to. It was much better no to go back to square one just treat it afresh and keep it light.  I only see her for an hour, also I find emailing before with a list of one or two things I want to address as sometimes I have forgotten by the time I get there Dont go prepared, if it’s important you’ll probably end up talking about. As a side note my therapist has ADHD but my previous therapist was fairly NT , this one seems a lot more focused and I think the feedback is more insightful. Like I never knew ADHD people mask too.

  • in reply to pietro_21

    Yes, I think even if I have some notes in front of me (I do it via zoom), then I can always use them/not use them as I feel I need. I seem to go a bit blank when in conversation and need a lot of promting. I wonder if emailing some ideas would help then, just so she has a vague idea of things we can bring up if I fail to say anything?

    That is interesting that ADHD folks mask too, I suppose suppressing all that movement if you are hyper side would be exhausting too!

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    the emailing the therapist first telling them what youve been thinking about between sessions can really help. I feel its for them to structure the sessions. Also it takes someone else to simplify things and to get look at them objectively. You yourself might be sending yourself in a negative thought loop.

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  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    the emailing the therapist first telling them what youve been thinking about between sessions can really help. I feel its for them to structure the sessions. Also it takes someone else to simplify things and to get look at them objectively. You yourself might be sending yourself in a negative thought loop.

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