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Recieving counselling

Cinnabar_wing

I was just wanting to ask advice from people who have recieved counselling/therapy etc. 
How do you know if you might have hit a wall with it and if it's worth doing anymore?

For background, I've had 4 session with a counsellor since October, whom I got on her waiting list just before I decided to go ahead with my ASD assessment. Before I started I told her about being in the middle of being assessed so she knew my situation from that I had previously stated.

My last appointment with her, I told her I had been confirmed with ASD, and she got very concerned I don't over research and fall into developing 'new traits' just because I read about them.  I understand her concern as I had heard about some people getting post-diagnosis skills loss, but I don't have time for any of that and am a little scared of unmasking anyway as I saw what I was when I did the assessment and I don't think anyone wants me to be that.

I've booked an appointment with her for after christmas as I was too busy before, but now I don't know what to say next time? She asked some questions to satisfy herself at the start about why I thought I was autistic, but I've been more dealing with the other baggage like childhood bullying and work anxiety, and not so much the ASD problems I face.

Now I don't know if I should hide that side as I don't think she wants to know as she's concerned about me throwing everything away I think? Is this what it's like talking to people? Trying to open up was so hard, now it feels it's better to seal it all away again? Or is this something that has to be worked through?

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  • Maybe after xmas when she see's you've not imploded, you'll be able to go back to working on what you need to work on, it might be that she's not confident in her skills in dealing with ND?

    Maybe she needs reminding that being ND dosen't mean that other stuff dosen't happen and dosent need dealing with.

    Maybe next time have a xhat with her about where you want to go with your counselling and if she's the right person to walk alongside you and if not, can she recomend someone else.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    It might be good to try and work out what I am trying to do certainly. I think I am actually confused myself about it, which is probably not helping. The initial reason for seeking help changed a bit with discovering some of it is autism related, but the wider issues are still there.  I think taking the time of the holidays to work out what I need myself is a good goal to have before I do have another session, and do as you said about discussing that with her.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    It might be good to try and work out what I am trying to do certainly. I think I am actually confused myself about it, which is probably not helping. The initial reason for seeking help changed a bit with discovering some of it is autism related, but the wider issues are still there.  I think taking the time of the holidays to work out what I need myself is a good goal to have before I do have another session, and do as you said about discussing that with her.

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