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Recieving counselling

Cinnabar_wing

I was just wanting to ask advice from people who have recieved counselling/therapy etc. 
How do you know if you might have hit a wall with it and if it's worth doing anymore?

For background, I've had 4 session with a counsellor since October, whom I got on her waiting list just before I decided to go ahead with my ASD assessment. Before I started I told her about being in the middle of being assessed so she knew my situation from that I had previously stated.

My last appointment with her, I told her I had been confirmed with ASD, and she got very concerned I don't over research and fall into developing 'new traits' just because I read about them.  I understand her concern as I had heard about some people getting post-diagnosis skills loss, but I don't have time for any of that and am a little scared of unmasking anyway as I saw what I was when I did the assessment and I don't think anyone wants me to be that.

I've booked an appointment with her for after christmas as I was too busy before, but now I don't know what to say next time? She asked some questions to satisfy herself at the start about why I thought I was autistic, but I've been more dealing with the other baggage like childhood bullying and work anxiety, and not so much the ASD problems I face.

Now I don't know if I should hide that side as I don't think she wants to know as she's concerned about me throwing everything away I think? Is this what it's like talking to people? Trying to open up was so hard, now it feels it's better to seal it all away again? Or is this something that has to be worked through?

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  • I don’t think you should feel you have to ‘hide’ or suppress things when talking to a therapist - if she’s making you feel that you need to do that I’d say that she’s not making you feel comfortable and secure enough to talk openly to her. 
    both myself and my youngest son have had therapy - I had therapy for ptsd and my therapist was wonderful and really helped me. My son had therapy for depression and ocd - his first therapist was incredibly nice but didn’t really help him, and his second therapist was quite harsh and abrupt and really alienated him - and she didn’t help him at all. After a whole year of this the therapy ended and my son didn’t feel he’d been helped at all and felt alienated from the whole process. So we had very different experiences. I think that you should ideally feel comfortable enough to be able to be completely open with your therapist - and if you feel you can’t maybe discuss with her that this is something your struggling with or confused about. She’s there to help you -  it’s her job not yours to solve the problems that arise during therapy. 

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  • I don’t think you should feel you have to ‘hide’ or suppress things when talking to a therapist - if she’s making you feel that you need to do that I’d say that she’s not making you feel comfortable and secure enough to talk openly to her. 
    both myself and my youngest son have had therapy - I had therapy for ptsd and my therapist was wonderful and really helped me. My son had therapy for depression and ocd - his first therapist was incredibly nice but didn’t really help him, and his second therapist was quite harsh and abrupt and really alienated him - and she didn’t help him at all. After a whole year of this the therapy ended and my son didn’t feel he’d been helped at all and felt alienated from the whole process. So we had very different experiences. I think that you should ideally feel comfortable enough to be able to be completely open with your therapist - and if you feel you can’t maybe discuss with her that this is something your struggling with or confused about. She’s there to help you -  it’s her job not yours to solve the problems that arise during therapy. 

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