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Meltdowns and depression

Xannah_M

Hey all.  I have been struggling more than usual lately.  I've always had issues with my mental health, had meltdowns and burnout episodes throughout my life. This was before I got my diagnosis, which I only finally got this year (I'm middle aged, for reference). I'm going through a rough time because of trying to push through at work, dealing with overwhelm, attempting to get accommodations now that I have my diagnosis, etc. I had a meltdown episode recently at work, and thankfully I was able to go into a room...away from people. However, I'm struggling. So exhausted. 

Having my diagnosis has been such an eyeopener for me and has answered so many questions. Unfortunately, it doesn't mean that life would become simpler, which I am sure most of us know well. 

Anyway, just thought I'd sure because, to be completely honest, people around me just "don't get it" or they unintentionally invalidate me. This fact makes my experiences even more isolating.

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  • Hello.

    I'm not sure if you're asking a question. You seem to have made a statement that seems fine.

    You've had a diagnosis which is helping you understand yourself. You're struggling at work and trying to bulldoze through which is hard. Sounds like correct operation to me 

    If you want to not find it so hard, you need to back off a little bit. You may be putting more pressure on yourself than you need. Or you just need a holiday. Christmas is coming.

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  • Hello.

    I'm not sure if you're asking a question. You seem to have made a statement that seems fine.

    You've had a diagnosis which is helping you understand yourself. You're struggling at work and trying to bulldoze through which is hard. Sounds like correct operation to me 

    If you want to not find it so hard, you need to back off a little bit. You may be putting more pressure on yourself than you need. Or you just need a holiday. Christmas is coming.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    Hi, thanks for your response. I was just sharing, since I can’t seem to share with anyone around me without being misunderstood. I’ve always put pressure on myself to do things as perfectly as I can (which is harmful, I know). Also, for other reasons, I’m constantly in a state of coping, and “I must prove myself” at work. 

    Having holidays are short term fixes, which I spread throughout my year. Thankfully these are times when I can have time to myself and minimise the constant resilience and masking. However, Christmas doesn’t help me since I work in an environment which does not offer the liberty of having Christmastime off.

    For sure, I will continue to learn how to balance and figure out my existence, especially with added health and family challenges, minority group challenges, etc.