There is no easy answer to this as there are so many variables.
For example if you have communication issues (going non verbal, talking nonsense etc) when under pressure then you will need to find an incredibly understanding NT but would hopefully find NDs more accepting.
If you have problems in reading/understanding emotions then an ND with similar issues could be a bit of a powder keg as things will probably get bottled up until something blows.
I think it all comes down to finding a partner that is the right fit for your weaknesses and you for theirs so you compliment one another well, and being ND or NT is not much of a factor.
Finding an NT who can accept more extreme autistic traits is a different story - the "worse" we are the harder it is to find anybody but many still manage it.
I'm back on the dating scene in my late 50s and it is, well, entertaining. I'm going to write a lengthy post about my experiences sometime for some light entertainment (and maybe some therapy for me).
My experience has been NDs are harder work initially but longer term I think they are more predictable and therefore so long as you can accept their issues then it can work well.
There is no easy answer to this as there are so many variables.
For example if you have communication issues (going non verbal, talking nonsense etc) when under pressure then you will need to find an incredibly understanding NT but would hopefully find NDs more accepting.
If you have problems in reading/understanding emotions then an ND with similar issues could be a bit of a powder keg as things will probably get bottled up until something blows.
I think it all comes down to finding a partner that is the right fit for your weaknesses and you for theirs so you compliment one another well, and being ND or NT is not much of a factor.
Finding an NT who can accept more extreme autistic traits is a different story - the "worse" we are the harder it is to find anybody but many still manage it.
I'm back on the dating scene in my late 50s and it is, well, entertaining. I'm going to write a lengthy post about my experiences sometime for some light entertainment (and maybe some therapy for me).
My experience has been NDs are harder work initially but longer term I think they are more predictable and therefore so long as you can accept their issues then it can work well.
