My husband is NT, the big advantage is that he reads the non verbal cues and body language and provides me with additional explanation to various situations, he also tells me, that our daughter doesn't like something etc. The more problematic thing is that I constantly misread his reactions and ask him, if he is angry when he is not. He also misread me often, but we explain things to each other. He is I would say highly sensitive and definitely an introvert, has many friends, but likes spending more time at home and watch football or tv series.
There are various combinations of NT-ND or ND-ND that may fit good, or not at all.
There is no easy answer to this as there are so many variables.
For example if you have communication issues (going non verbal, talking nonsense etc) when under pressure then you will need to find an incredibly understanding NT but would hopefully find NDs more accepting.
If you have problems in reading/understanding emotions then an ND with similar issues could be a bit of a powder keg as things will probably get bottled up until something blows.
I think it all comes down to finding a partner that is the right fit for your weaknesses and you for theirs so you compliment one another well, and being ND or NT is not much of a factor.
Finding an NT who can accept more extreme autistic traits is a different story - the "worse" we are the harder it is to find anybody but many still manage it.
I'm back on the dating scene in my late 50s and it is, well, entertaining. I'm going to write a lengthy post about my experiences sometime for some light entertainment (and maybe some therapy for me).
My experience has been NDs are harder work initially but longer term I think they are more predictable and therefore so long as you can accept their issues then it can work well.
