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Alien0n3arth

My family members still laugh at me, my autoagression, I had issues with as a kid and teenager. Sometimes I dream of switching my phone number without letting them know. But they know where I live. My mom interrupts me and corrects me whenever I have an opinion different than hers. My duty is always having the same opinion as her. Then she can say with a wide smile, that im exactly like her and we understand each other perfectly.  No, it's far from truth. My issue with her is also that I have no chance in any discussion becauseof the processing speed. I'm basically much slower than her. In fact it's only around maybe 10 years ago, that I realised that I can form my own opinion and also say it out loud, it's still challenging for me. I was blocked my entire childhood and youth. Now, whenever I say something that does not fit with my mom's opinion,  I'm being difficult,  or I'm basically wrong or sheis very much amazed, when the change in me occurred. I have no power and no idea how to deal with them. I also feel like I have no personality.  I'm sorry for thispost, if anyone knows how to deal, or has similar experience, can answer. I will be grateful. 

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  • I have had a similar experience with my Mother. If I spoke up, I was shouted down, always told she knew best when in fact she lacked understanding or knowledge. I gave up trying to deal with her some years back and it has been the best thing I have done. I do wish I had done this decades ago. You do not have to put up up with such treatment. I have so much more confidence and go traveling now which would have been very hard for me in the past due to the toxic relationship.       

  • in reply to LucyLandRover

    My mom diagnosed her own husband with borderline (in my opinion just a malignant narcissist, but I didn't tell her that) malignant definitely and strong narcissistic traits. And then in the further conversation it turned out she does not know, that borderline and bipolar are two different conditions. She says, I can't be autistic,  because autistic people are those who slam doors or bang their heads all the time and are genius at math. How does it make sense I don't know. This is her understanding if autism, and it's 100% correct (because she knows it). And I'm nothing like this, I'm nit a math genius and I'm not slamming doors for hours or banging my head. And there is no power which would convince her otherwise.

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  • in reply to LucyLandRover

    My mom diagnosed her own husband with borderline (in my opinion just a malignant narcissist, but I didn't tell her that) malignant definitely and strong narcissistic traits. And then in the further conversation it turned out she does not know, that borderline and bipolar are two different conditions. She says, I can't be autistic,  because autistic people are those who slam doors or bang their heads all the time and are genius at math. How does it make sense I don't know. This is her understanding if autism, and it's 100% correct (because she knows it). And I'm nothing like this, I'm nit a math genius and I'm not slamming doors for hours or banging my head. And there is no power which would convince her otherwise.

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