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Feeling overwhelmed when reaching out, does anyone else experience this?

Lonehare12

I wanted to ask about something I noticed recently about myself.

When I tried to PM someone to thank them for their efforts supporting people here, I felt a really awful, physical feeling in my body, almost dread. I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

It felt like because of all the unknowns around it, the uncertainty of it all, I nearly talked myself out of it.

Is this because of my AUDHD or are NT people like this too.

I wonder if others experience something similar?

How do you manage it, and does it help to try small steps, like sending a message or accepting compliments?

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  • Another part for me in contacting people is, will I be able to rid of them or will they cling to me like a limpet and be a drain on me? 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    ThIs is how I feel too.!!

    And I would hate to hurt anyone!!

    Maybe that's also why I am so cautious.

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    I strongly suspect that neurotypical people do vast swathes of this social behaviour stuff completely automatically with little care and attention.

    Yet I find so much of this to be a very deliberate effort.

    Unless I am in automatic "joke" mode which I believe I learned early on is a good way of easing one's journey (except perhaps at funerals, in communication with police officers, when one is in contact with someone who will take the opportunity to feign offence in order to threaten one, - oh blast I'm making lists of things not to joke about - that's probably not a good sign!)

    Or in "explain mode"...

    I hate to hurt people too.  I have hurt people by saying the wrong thing no end...  Honesty comes out of me in a "bad way" sometimes and I struggle to deal with the consequences.

    The impression I get is that neurotypical people (hehe sweeping generalisation there...)  don't seem to be sensitive about the mistakes they make and don't get so "hung up" on them.  

    I would be interested to know what others here think about this :-)

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    Thanks  

    I'm glad for the same reasons as yourself.

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