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Ava

Hi I’m autistic but undiagnosed. I need someone who understands as I was bullied and grew up in a bad area and I have watched others to the point that I don’t show any autism at all because I was bullied and learned to copy but I didn’t know I was copying but I didn’t want bullied so I would repeat what others said and behave like others to avoid bullying and it’s become my behaviour but unfortunately it means that people don’t understand I’m autistic and I didn’t know I was either but I am. 
IM 100% autistic but there’s nothing I can do as I went for an assessment and didn’t get diagnosed. I get burnout and analysed everything to get things right but ambiguous communication and idioms and social cues and norms etc have caused significant damage as I’ve misunderstood people and they have misunderstood me. I catastrophise etc.

living nightmare 

anyone understand?

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  • Dear Ava,

    You are "all good" with your post here (in my opinion.)

    You speak of things that I ENTIRELY understand.

    In "ye Olde days", there were more like 'me, you & Lotus' here.....but for a variety of reasons, we have all sublimated....into the ether.

    I stay "looking in" here, purely to reassure folk like you.  By definition, folks like us, feel like fooooking outsiders in EVERY situation/forum/interaction......because we are wired differently.....in our heads.....and therefore in accord to the perception of "others"?!

    All I would say is this........if you haven't yet gone through the panoply of alternative "diagnoses" that could apply to "us-type".....then BUCKLE UP sister!!  I spent a good few years NEVER contemplating the "A" word concept.........then.....the penny dropped!  That was a good-few years ago in my life.  In some respects, it got easier over time, in some respects, NOTHING changes.

    Good luck to you Ava.

    Kind regards

    Numb - er.

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  • Dear Ava,

    You are "all good" with your post here (in my opinion.)

    You speak of things that I ENTIRELY understand.

    In "ye Olde days", there were more like 'me, you & Lotus' here.....but for a variety of reasons, we have all sublimated....into the ether.

    I stay "looking in" here, purely to reassure folk like you.  By definition, folks like us, feel like fooooking outsiders in EVERY situation/forum/interaction......because we are wired differently.....in our heads.....and therefore in accord to the perception of "others"?!

    All I would say is this........if you haven't yet gone through the panoply of alternative "diagnoses" that could apply to "us-type".....then BUCKLE UP sister!!  I spent a good few years NEVER contemplating the "A" word concept.........then.....the penny dropped!  That was a good-few years ago in my life.  In some respects, it got easier over time, in some respects, NOTHING changes.

    Good luck to you Ava.

    Kind regards

    Numb - er.

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