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Difficulty tolerating work colleagues and confrontations

Despair25

Working in an office I have had a number of confrontations with work colleagues. I have felt generally tense and uncomfortable and people rub me up the wrong way, agitate me, irritate me. I can end up getting argumentative, saying bad things and on occasion have shouted at a colleague in the face and a few times has resulted in getting into a bit of trouble and lost jobs as I just don't get along with colleagues. I hate having to be around them and hate social events finding any excuse possible to avoid them.

I just want to be on my own but am forced to endure this to earn the money to live. At the end of the working day and in lunch breaks I can't leave soon enough to get away from them and when confined in the office I feel very defensive and ready to snap at anyone. I'm sat in the middle of a busy office and people are always walking around and having conversations around me.

Is there anything I can do as I'm starting to feel tense again with interactions with one work colleague and their attitude and fearing if they intimidate me as they have done before I may lash out and get into trouble.

I don't know what's wrong with me but I just want to be at home and not have to interact with work colleagues.

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  • Despair25 said:
    I'm sat in the middle of a busy office and people are always walking around and having conversations around me.

    Can you ask to move to the edge or somewhere with less disturbance? This distractions are probably a large part of your problem.

    Can you use earbuds to reduce the noise? 

    The snappiness is because you're stressed. It makes you short tempered. 

    If you are drinking lots of coffee, it might seem like it helps, but it would be better to cut out the caffeine.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thankyou, I'm with colleagues doing the same job as me but can see if they might move me to the office next door where it is quieter.

    I am allowed to wear ear buds and listen to music but do need to answer the phone now and again.

    Definitely with the stress, I can find it hard to concentrate and focus on things with all the noise, chatter and people moving around.

    I don't tend to drink coffee that often, I tend to drink just water or squash when in the office. 

    I have sometimes gone into the toilet to get away from all the noise and disturbance.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thankyou, I'm with colleagues doing the same job as me but can see if they might move me to the office next door where it is quieter.

    I am allowed to wear ear buds and listen to music but do need to answer the phone now and again.

    Definitely with the stress, I can find it hard to concentrate and focus on things with all the noise, chatter and people moving around.

    I don't tend to drink coffee that often, I tend to drink just water or squash when in the office. 

    I have sometimes gone into the toilet to get away from all the noise and disturbance.

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