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Why couldn't I have just been made normal?

FUB39

Anybody else just really effing angry? Like, I never asked for this. I hate it. Autism and ADHD together? Oh, lucky me... not. 

I'm recently diagnosed and up until this point, I've spent years thinking I struggled with my mental health and that I could try therapies and medication to treat it and make myself better. To find out that the majority of this is actually Autism and ADHD and there's not a damn thing I can do to make them go away, is honestly just soul-destroying. I hate it. I hate what it's made me. It's the absolute worst thing aout me and it's ruining my life. 

Anybody else just wish they could have been made normal?

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  • Define normal?

    There are a load of different ways you could have born, you could have other disabilities, or none, it's easy to focus on those who seem to sail through life without a care in the world, but are they really so carefree, do they not have thier own crosses to bear? It could be that the cross they have to bear is a lack of understanding about the lives of those of us who struggle?

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    Define normal?

    https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/normal

    conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern : characterized by that which is considered usual, typical, or routine.

  • in reply to Iain

    Yes Iain that's a dictionary definition, but thats a very black and white way of seeing things, life dosen't work quite like that, you've not only got the culture that we share as people from the same country, but the sub cultures of social groups, geography and most of all our individual family culture. Often these cultures are conflicting with few overlaps and that's where the problems begin.

  • in reply to Iain

    I think this exchange has shown up the real differences between us Iain; you swallowed a dictionary, whereas I ate a thesaurus!

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    that's a dictionary definition, but thats a very black and white way of seeing thing

    You admitted on another thread just the other day that you found most other autists seem to thing in black and white so why is this a surprise? 

    TheCatWoman said:
    you've not only got the culture that we share as people from the same country, but the sub cultures of social groups, geography and most of all our individual family culture.

    I get the impression the original poster was not asking about this complex world of greys you refer to hear, but they just struggle with wanting to be like other people in their world and not suffer the effects of their neurodivergent conditions.

    It is a simple wish and I believe they are looking for validation and support, not criticism for not considering the wider world in which we live.

    What you say is valid but is being a little insensitive.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    that's a dictionary definition, but thats a very black and white way of seeing thing

    You admitted on another thread just the other day that you found most other autists seem to thing in black and white so why is this a surprise? 

    TheCatWoman said:
    you've not only got the culture that we share as people from the same country, but the sub cultures of social groups, geography and most of all our individual family culture.

    I get the impression the original poster was not asking about this complex world of greys you refer to hear, but they just struggle with wanting to be like other people in their world and not suffer the effects of their neurodivergent conditions.

    It is a simple wish and I believe they are looking for validation and support, not criticism for not considering the wider world in which we live.

    What you say is valid but is being a little insensitive.

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