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Why couldn't I have just been made normal?

FUB39

Anybody else just really effing angry? Like, I never asked for this. I hate it. Autism and ADHD together? Oh, lucky me... not. 

I'm recently diagnosed and up until this point, I've spent years thinking I struggled with my mental health and that I could try therapies and medication to treat it and make myself better. To find out that the majority of this is actually Autism and ADHD and there's not a damn thing I can do to make them go away, is honestly just soul-destroying. I hate it. I hate what it's made me. It's the absolute worst thing aout me and it's ruining my life. 

Anybody else just wish they could have been made normal?

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  • Now I know what it is 'Autism and ADHD' too, I don't wish I could be born normal. Before yes, because I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. Now I know my life is a lot easier and I have built up a good support network of kind people to help me. I also have cerebral palsy, I was abused when I was a child, grew up in a peaceful but backward area with few opportunities and had neglectful parents/brother. 

    I respect what you are saying though and your anger is total justified. What helped me a lot if finding a neuro-divergent therapist, which is clicked with right away. Now my personal trainer is also Autistic too. So it helps knowing other autistic people I think. I remember when I was 10 at school realizing that I would have cerebral palsy for the rest of my life and crying my eyes out in front of the teacher. It was as you say soul destroying for me. However 20 years later I am able to manage my autism/ADHD and work to start correcting my CP. Its just going to take 2-3 years, then I need to maintain it, and I wish I had moved out of my parents house sooner too. I have a couple friends which I don't see because they live too far away. However I have rebuilt my relationship with my extended family. 

    I totally understand what you feel this way too, I wanted to change so much and be normal, but I feel much better knowing I can manage it and explain it to other people. 

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  • Now I know what it is 'Autism and ADHD' too, I don't wish I could be born normal. Before yes, because I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. Now I know my life is a lot easier and I have built up a good support network of kind people to help me. I also have cerebral palsy, I was abused when I was a child, grew up in a peaceful but backward area with few opportunities and had neglectful parents/brother. 

    I respect what you are saying though and your anger is total justified. What helped me a lot if finding a neuro-divergent therapist, which is clicked with right away. Now my personal trainer is also Autistic too. So it helps knowing other autistic people I think. I remember when I was 10 at school realizing that I would have cerebral palsy for the rest of my life and crying my eyes out in front of the teacher. It was as you say soul destroying for me. However 20 years later I am able to manage my autism/ADHD and work to start correcting my CP. Its just going to take 2-3 years, then I need to maintain it, and I wish I had moved out of my parents house sooner too. I have a couple friends which I don't see because they live too far away. However I have rebuilt my relationship with my extended family. 

    I totally understand what you feel this way too, I wanted to change so much and be normal, but I feel much better knowing I can manage it and explain it to other people. 

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