Feeling disempowered, how do you cope?

I feel really disempowered by my inability to find clothes to fit let alone ones that I like, its the same with shoes, why are all non formal shoes trainers? I don't want trainers, I don't like them and have never owned a pair.

I think it's the lack of shops that makes me feel disempowered, we will need new ceiling lights for upstairs due to electrical problems, there's two places where we can actually go and look at a small selection of stuff. What if we can't find anything we like? I hate looking at pictures online theres just an object on a blank background, theres no perspective like there used to be in old fashioned catalogues. When I do look online I have to wade through pages and pages of sponsered ads and stuff I didn't ask for to the point where I just give up.

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  • The lack of local shops with me is a real problem. Most of the shops in the local town are boarded up, which is really upsetting.

    I tend not to buy clothes on line or if I do I do click and collect, so I can try them on in store and give them straight back if I don't like them. I have a real problem with shoes too. Though as I have an E fitting I do buy on line and click and collect as need a lot of pairs to try on. I have previously sent back all 6 pairs.

    I tend to go back to brands for home furnishings that I have liked before the days of the internet. Plus I tend to know exactly what I am looking for. I last bought lights a long time ago and when I had money to spend on furnishings. I thought I'd google BHS for a light like I bought years ago and almost fell off my chair when it said it was 60 pounds.

    I'll post a link for you to see here: 

  • Actually it's a lot nicer than that one, but if I put a photo of mine, that might be against the forum rules for ID data. Grin

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