What's your PDA?

How does your persistent drive for autonomy (PDA) manifest itself? (Or pathological demand avoidance, as the medics call it.)

I suspect I might have a bit of it, but I'm not sure. I seem to have (and always had) an instinctive resistance to social pressure, rather than a desire not to do what someone asks:

  • I hate whatever is "fashionable". I will go out of my way to be unfashionable. Including, but not limited to:
    • Manufactured pop music (cause of my most recent meltdown)
    • Clothing trends (jeans and a T-shirt have done me since the 80s)
    • Reality TV shows (unless narrated by David Attenborough)
    • Anything made by Apple
    • New/wrong words or phrases (like "irregardless" or "going forward")
  • I refuse to do things "just because". There has to be a reason. I won't ...
    • Panic buy toilet roll when there's a pandemic
    • Eat at McDonald's (it's garbage)
    • Admire royalty
    • Wear fancy dress
    • Do the ice bucket challenge
    • (I make an exception for red wine; it is its own reason)
  • I hate whatever is heavily advertised. Sure, it might not be a bad product, but I'm not paying extra to fund being advertised at really irritatingly. If they persist, I'll make point of never buying their product—ever:
    • Gillette razors
    • Any major brand of washing powder and, even more-so, those capsules kids love to eat
    • Anything that solves a non-existent problem (bottled water, "detox" anything)
    • Kellogg's anything
    • Insurance comparison sites
    • Every single online gambling site (don't get me started on that one)

Anyone got anything like that? Is that even PDA or am I just a cranky old fart?

Parents
  • I refuse to like something becuase others ro if I but a fashion label it’s becuse it’s super cheap and I need a top or whatever 

    I like wearing the band tops i like the bands of nkt what ever is in fashion and if I go to a gig I may or may not wear the band tops depending how I feel I just refuse to fit in becuase contest aitn a sin no it’s not a sin 

    I love a good advert slofab but only for a new stim

    i hate being told how to enjoy something like oh yes everyone will have one song they dislike hu this band or they’re all good let me decide please 

    oh this game is the worst game ever? Wrll I like it so neeehhh 

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  • I refuse to like something becuase others ro if I but a fashion label it’s becuse it’s super cheap and I need a top or whatever 

    I like wearing the band tops i like the bands of nkt what ever is in fashion and if I go to a gig I may or may not wear the band tops depending how I feel I just refuse to fit in becuase contest aitn a sin no it’s not a sin 

    I love a good advert slofab but only for a new stim

    i hate being told how to enjoy something like oh yes everyone will have one song they dislike hu this band or they’re all good let me decide please 

    oh this game is the worst game ever? Wrll I like it so neeehhh 

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