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Being the Black Sheep

Desmond1979

Throughout my life, I sought to blow my own trumpet. Here, in Rural Ireland, conformity is enforced by Whispering Campaigns. The women in my life were obsessed about others 'talking about me'. Plus, there was the Old Chestnut of, "I think the World of ye!"

Having a bereavement in a family turns those around you into control-freaks. There is a huge fear of death, in my country. People expect you to have the 'Black Flag' mindset. However, an RE Teacher said, "We prepare for death by living life to the full!" Life should be a journey, not a competition.

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  • I was raised with the threat of, “don’t you dare make a show of me.” I’ve just commented on a different post, my mother can’t say the words autistic or autism, what if the neighbours found out? 
    Death is part of life, no one has escaped alive yet, a lot of my partners work is with end of life patients, most of the older people don’t seem to fear death, some welcome it. A common reply is, “I’ve had my life, I’ve seen everything I want to see, I’m ready to go.” They don’t say it in a depressed way, more just, I’ve had enough.

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  • I was raised with the threat of, “don’t you dare make a show of me.” I’ve just commented on a different post, my mother can’t say the words autistic or autism, what if the neighbours found out? 
    Death is part of life, no one has escaped alive yet, a lot of my partners work is with end of life patients, most of the older people don’t seem to fear death, some welcome it. A common reply is, “I’ve had my life, I’ve seen everything I want to see, I’m ready to go.” They don’t say it in a depressed way, more just, I’ve had enough.

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  • in reply to Roy
    Roy said:
    Death is part of life, no one has escaped alive yet, a lot of my partners work is with end of life patients, most of the older people don’t seem to fear death, some welcome it. A common reply is, “I’ve had my life, I’ve seen everything I want to see, I’m ready to go.” They don’t say it in a depressed way, more just, I’ve had enough.

    You could argue that everyone alive today has escaped death, but only for now. Grinning

    I get the bit about having enough - I'm approaching 60 and have done all the big things in life that I wanted, seen the world and am generally happy to be able to stop and enjoy early retirement where I just do occasional work that I enjoy and some charity work.

    The accumulated traumas from life have taken their toll and I do feel that if the grim reaper came calling tomorrow then I'd be ready to go.

    Part of it is the slow decay of the body as bits start to malfunction, break down and the slow realisation that it is never going to get any better, so there is not much to look forward to in that respect.

    You also get tired of hearing the same old bull droppings from people, the increasingly bold failings of people in power and the general worsening of society so there is not much to want to hang around for.

    To me this helps explain why older people can think this way.