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Being the Black Sheep

Desmond1979

Throughout my life, I sought to blow my own trumpet. Here, in Rural Ireland, conformity is enforced by Whispering Campaigns. The women in my life were obsessed about others 'talking about me'. Plus, there was the Old Chestnut of, "I think the World of ye!"

Having a bereavement in a family turns those around you into control-freaks. There is a huge fear of death, in my country. People expect you to have the 'Black Flag' mindset. However, an RE Teacher said, "We prepare for death by living life to the full!" Life should be a journey, not a competition.

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  • I agree, we should enjoy the journey through life, learn as much as we can, be curious and kind, none of us know what's around the corner.

    Death is a difficult subject for so many people and many people do become control freaks, but then I think they probably have that sort of minset anyway, hense the worries about people talking about you. I remember than one well from when I was a child and having to act normal, I thought I was, but apprently I wasn't and embarresed lots of people.

    Now I don't really care what people think of me, obviously I'd rather be liked than loathed, being liked makes life easier, but unless someone gets in my face about stuff I find it hard to summon the energy to care. But then I guess that's part of what marks me out as different, I don't respond to the ' I think the world of you, but...' in the way people expect, I don't bend over backwards to appologise and "be normal". If I've inadvertantly upset someone then of course I will appologise, but if someones offended by my existance then it's their problem not mine.

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  • I agree, we should enjoy the journey through life, learn as much as we can, be curious and kind, none of us know what's around the corner.

    Death is a difficult subject for so many people and many people do become control freaks, but then I think they probably have that sort of minset anyway, hense the worries about people talking about you. I remember than one well from when I was a child and having to act normal, I thought I was, but apprently I wasn't and embarresed lots of people.

    Now I don't really care what people think of me, obviously I'd rather be liked than loathed, being liked makes life easier, but unless someone gets in my face about stuff I find it hard to summon the energy to care. But then I guess that's part of what marks me out as different, I don't respond to the ' I think the world of you, but...' in the way people expect, I don't bend over backwards to appologise and "be normal". If I've inadvertantly upset someone then of course I will appologise, but if someones offended by my existance then it's their problem not mine.

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