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NAS81473

Hello hello 

I have just had a baby everything seems geared at the minute about baby massage baby yoga skin to skin these are all things that I keep having to explain I feel comfortable with it's making it harder every time I have to explain myself regarding this and I don't know what to do what this is where my partner picks up the slack but it just feels overwhelming all of the time and heighten sensory as well 

I am struggling to know what I can do to build a relationship with him. I have the word bond I don't feel instant love etc 

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  • I was undiagnosed when I had my twins 2 years ago. 

    My opinion - the baby massage / baby yoga / baby classes are all just an excuse for NT mums to get out of the house and socialise, and it didn't work for me. 

    The first most important thing is that your baby is looked after - safe sleeping, feeding, changing etc 

    Then yourself - advocate for what your needs are - unbroken sleep, physical recovery, help with practical tasks (bottles, laundry), a chance to step out for a coffee alone

    As  says - push back on visitors until you feel ready. And when they do visit, it should be on your terms.

    About the bond - I don't think I ever had a "bond" with my babies, I was just constantly worried about them and then after the first year, they began interacting and speaking and that's when the "bond" really started. And then you'll just love your child more and more as the weeks pass (and they pass quickly!) 

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  • I was undiagnosed when I had my twins 2 years ago. 

    My opinion - the baby massage / baby yoga / baby classes are all just an excuse for NT mums to get out of the house and socialise, and it didn't work for me. 

    The first most important thing is that your baby is looked after - safe sleeping, feeding, changing etc 

    Then yourself - advocate for what your needs are - unbroken sleep, physical recovery, help with practical tasks (bottles, laundry), a chance to step out for a coffee alone

    As  says - push back on visitors until you feel ready. And when they do visit, it should be on your terms.

    About the bond - I don't think I ever had a "bond" with my babies, I was just constantly worried about them and then after the first year, they began interacting and speaking and that's when the "bond" really started. And then you'll just love your child more and more as the weeks pass (and they pass quickly!) 

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