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People stressing me out!

Ali

I’m feeling really stressed about this upcoming cricket game which I’ve given permission to be played in my field this weekend and now I’m getting so much hate from neighbours and people from the village. It’s an absolute nightmare and I’ve had a migraine on and off because of it.

Basically what it is is they want to use my field for a game of cricket this Sunday and they are meeting a lot of opposition with the majority of our community because it will be a lot of noise on that day and the field is next to the centre of the village.

I’ve given them the okay to do the cricket game. The way I see it is it’s a day out for people, better than people just using their phones and there’s no other purpose for the field other than occasionally renting it out to a local farmer. My mum used to let them use it for cricket every summer as well and I see no reason to stop her tradition now. Only thing is I’ve been getting a lot of people calling me and complaining about it, and one or two have come to the house and talked to me about this game and why can’t it be somewhere else.

I said about my mum’s tradition and I don’t want to stop it as it’s something she used to enjoy and brought enjoyment to a lot of others as well. I said it’s only once a year, which it is. The way a lot of people talk they make it sound like it’s done every weekend but that’s not the case. I’m not into sport and I know nothing about cricket but I see no harm in doing this.

I just wish people would stop keeping on at me. It’s becoming so tedious and they make me feel like I’m the villain for giving this the green light.

Sometimes I wish I lived on my own private island, with only wildlife for neighbours.

  • What O&W said. Are these objectors new to the area? I'm with you on wishing to live on an island with only wildlife for neighbours.

  • Ali said:
    one or two have come to the house and talked to me about this game and why can’t it be somewhere else.

    I would very politely say you are doing it for the community to bring people together to bond and make the village a happier place. I would then, very pointedly ask these prying NIMBYs what have they done for the comminity lately and when they stammer a meaningless reply I would say "I thought so - you just take and never give. Now please leave."

    I would then make this a standing tradition and see if you can get some funding for it in future to cover the cost of insurance, cleanup and signage so you are not out of pocket and the land stays in the same condition. Name the event after your mum in her honor and let the positives give you the strenght to deal with the Mrs Bouquets of this world.

    Ali said:
    they make me feel like I’m the villain for giving this the green light.

    What about all the people who are happy about the event - I bet there are vasty more in this camp.

    Perhaps raise the issue at any local village town hall type meetings and say you have been harrassed by these NIMBYs and you want to be democratic and ask the will of the people. I'm certain you will get overwhelming approval, especially if you can get any local charities involved and it should shut up the ones who have been giving you a hard time.

    You can also the say it is the "will of the people" if they persist and ask at the next meeting for people to help persuade these NIMBYs of the benefit of the event. If nothing else you are pushing back and letting peope take the hassle to the NIMBYs instead to give them a taste of their own medicine.

    That is just what I would do - you need to find a path that works for you.

  • Wow kudos to you for keeping up with the tradition! That sounds like it could be potentially a huge amount of stress.

    You’re not a villain. I have a guy in my neighborhood who has a loud concert he puts on every other weekend in summer and it stresses me out, but I can manage enough to not complain to him about it. If I can handle that, then your neighbors can handle one day of the year lmao.

    I say keep digging your heels if you can. It sounds like what you are doing is a positive for the community. Maybe warn the folks running the game of the backlash you’ve been having, though. That way they aren’t surprised if the neighbors complain to them as well.