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Concern for partner about their job, overworked, autistic, bullied too.

Unknown1043

Hey all,

Just wanted to post here as I'm frustrated on behalf of my partner.

They have been in a job for just over a year, admin. Health service. Up until the beginning of this year, they had enjoyed the job, but suddenly their manager had turned against them due to them raising some concerns and them feeling their autism was not cared about. The manager has since then totally kept them out of the loop and they reckon the manager has been talking about them behind their back. Not to mention a colleague who is intolerant of their religion.

They have found they have been completely overworked, doing work of others when they shouldn't have. Members of staff have left and they have never been replaced, so the work is spread incredibly thin. One of the team is potentially moving department, which would make things even worse. Partner is completely burnt out and coming home panicky and stressed. It is really affecting their mental health, and obviously they are autistic, so I am really worried for them physically and mentally, more so mentally.

They are really considering leaving the job if things don't improve, in order to take a little break, and then look for another position.

It is really horrible that work places are like this.

UNITED KINGDOM

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  • I'm guessing.. NHS? That organisation supposedly full of saintly, selfless, caring, wonderful human beings, who think they can completely ignore employment law because... aww, it's for the good of the patients!

    I've heard it all.

    There is no way around it, there's no union with teeth, no-one coming to the rescue, and HR is there simply for damage limitation, and will do anything to discredit your concerns - your boss is God and can ruin your career just from being pissed off from burning their toast on a given morning. Power, power, power. 

    To get around that you need to be as hard as nails, prepared to go to tribunal if necessary (because that's what it will take), take advice from a lawyer, - the first appointment might be free or inexpensive.

    And that's for neurotypicals.

    Find a new job before ending the existing one. In the meantime work as slowly as you are comfortable with.  Read up on the rules. Usually, they have to give time off for attending interviews. 

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  • I'm guessing.. NHS? That organisation supposedly full of saintly, selfless, caring, wonderful human beings, who think they can completely ignore employment law because... aww, it's for the good of the patients!

    I've heard it all.

    There is no way around it, there's no union with teeth, no-one coming to the rescue, and HR is there simply for damage limitation, and will do anything to discredit your concerns - your boss is God and can ruin your career just from being pissed off from burning their toast on a given morning. Power, power, power. 

    To get around that you need to be as hard as nails, prepared to go to tribunal if necessary (because that's what it will take), take advice from a lawyer, - the first appointment might be free or inexpensive.

    And that's for neurotypicals.

    Find a new job before ending the existing one. In the meantime work as slowly as you are comfortable with.  Read up on the rules. Usually, they have to give time off for attending interviews. 

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