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Concern for partner about their job, overworked, autistic, bullied too.

Unknown1043

Hey all,

Just wanted to post here as I'm frustrated on behalf of my partner.

They have been in a job for just over a year, admin. Health service. Up until the beginning of this year, they had enjoyed the job, but suddenly their manager had turned against them due to them raising some concerns and them feeling their autism was not cared about. The manager has since then totally kept them out of the loop and they reckon the manager has been talking about them behind their back. Not to mention a colleague who is intolerant of their religion.

They have found they have been completely overworked, doing work of others when they shouldn't have. Members of staff have left and they have never been replaced, so the work is spread incredibly thin. One of the team is potentially moving department, which would make things even worse. Partner is completely burnt out and coming home panicky and stressed. It is really affecting their mental health, and obviously they are autistic, so I am really worried for them physically and mentally, more so mentally.

They are really considering leaving the job if things don't improve, in order to take a little break, and then look for another position.

It is really horrible that work places are like this.

UNITED KINGDOM

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  • Hello Unknown,

    Yeah that’s an unfortunate situation. If it were me - and this is totally personal opinion - I would start looking for related jobs in other companies. Or your partner could possibly go above his manager and ask their boss for advice/help.

    I had a job in IT for a while that totally burned me out. My bosses kept putting more and more work on me that could have been delegated to others, I was stuck with managing student workers that didn’t want to be there, and the office environment was HORRID for someone with ASD/ADHD like me (florescent lights, high traffic area, loud office, etc). All that and I was being paid at least $5-7 an hour less than I should have been (sorry, I’m in the States).

    How my wife and I ended up resolving it was that I replaced that full-time job with a couple part-time jobs. I got more hours teaching at the university the IT department was and I grabbed some night shift hours at a local supermarket. Overall the burnout subsided after a little while because the pressure wasn’t as intense at the other two jobs.

    So yeah, my advice is to start the process of looking for other positions. If things somehow get better, you can always stop the job search. I wish you both the best!

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  • Hello Unknown,

    Yeah that’s an unfortunate situation. If it were me - and this is totally personal opinion - I would start looking for related jobs in other companies. Or your partner could possibly go above his manager and ask their boss for advice/help.

    I had a job in IT for a while that totally burned me out. My bosses kept putting more and more work on me that could have been delegated to others, I was stuck with managing student workers that didn’t want to be there, and the office environment was HORRID for someone with ASD/ADHD like me (florescent lights, high traffic area, loud office, etc). All that and I was being paid at least $5-7 an hour less than I should have been (sorry, I’m in the States).

    How my wife and I ended up resolving it was that I replaced that full-time job with a couple part-time jobs. I got more hours teaching at the university the IT department was and I grabbed some night shift hours at a local supermarket. Overall the burnout subsided after a little while because the pressure wasn’t as intense at the other two jobs.

    So yeah, my advice is to start the process of looking for other positions. If things somehow get better, you can always stop the job search. I wish you both the best!

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