Interview Anxieties

Hello.

I'm feeling very anxious over my interview which is tomorrow. It's going to be my first job interview and I'm going crazy thinking about it. I've done a bit of research on how to stay calm and not over think it but that hasn't really worked for me yet, it never does. When I get anxious it's like being a passenger on board an out of control plane doing a nose dive. I've written out some questions that I might be asked during the interview and wrote down what my replies would be.

But then I thought what if these questions aren't even asked, and even if they were, my memory isn't good enough to remember what I answered here and now and I doubt I'll be as confident in person.

That's the problem with me I over think and over analyse everything and I don't know how to stop it. My sister has been kind enough to tell me of her own experience with job interviews and that's helped a bit but she is charming and funny and I am shy and quiet. I have no confidence and I suck at talking to people, I always have since I was able to talk.

What I want most is to come across as me in the interview, honest is the best policy, but not too much me that I'm weird or at worst have a meltdown or go into shutdown. If that happens then I can guarantee the interview will be over and I definitely won't get the job. I don't want to mask and come across as somebody I'm not. I can't mask for the rest of my life every time I go to work. I did this at school, it helped me get through the majority of my schooling life but the negative effects it had on my mental health have hit me hard since school and I'm still trying to deal with that now.

I want so badly for this interview to go well but I have a horrible feeling it's going to go badly.

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  • Hello,

    Some of you said to let you know how it went today. The interview was a disaster, my anxiety got the better of me and I really blew it. I was told I would find out by the end of today if I was successful and I found out just after lunch.

    Feeling very down right now.

    Thanks for helping me I appreciate it.

  • I know it's not going to feel good right now and I'm sorry it wasn't a good experience. Try to remember though that that was your first ever interview. Just turning up is an achievement when anxiety is involved. I messed up my first few job interviews completely because I was too nervous and didn't really know what was expected of me. With time I got more used to them and got better at them and now I'm told I interview quite well. They are still tough and I still get very anxious but I can do it now. Give yourself time to recover but don't let it put you off trying again. Also remember that you can ask for reasonable adjustments to make it easier for you. 

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  • I know it's not going to feel good right now and I'm sorry it wasn't a good experience. Try to remember though that that was your first ever interview. Just turning up is an achievement when anxiety is involved. I messed up my first few job interviews completely because I was too nervous and didn't really know what was expected of me. With time I got more used to them and got better at them and now I'm told I interview quite well. They are still tough and I still get very anxious but I can do it now. Give yourself time to recover but don't let it put you off trying again. Also remember that you can ask for reasonable adjustments to make it easier for you. 

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