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Abusive relationships

TheCatWoman

I don't feel like I've ever had a non abusive relationship, I've had 4 long term relationships and whilst the abuse hasn't been physical, its certainly been psychological and only looking back do I see how damaging they've been. I'm so much better off on my own and never want another relationship again.

Does anyone else feel the same?

Parents

  • I have always blamed myself for the way I have been treated. I feel like I let it happen and as soon as someone sees that you’re a push over they use that to their advantage. Maybe I thought that was what it was all about. 

  • in reply to Take5

    I sometimes wonder if we subconciously pick friends and partners who we feel are strong enough to protect us in some way? Of course this back fires, because they either don't protect us or it them thats the problem.

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  • in reply to Take5

    I sometimes wonder if we subconciously pick friends and partners who we feel are strong enough to protect us in some way? Of course this back fires, because they either don't protect us or it them thats the problem.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I think there's definitely something in that theory.

    Im usually calm in a crisis and very diplomatic, as a kid I was the opposite up till my 30s I would say.

    However I still occasionally get that anxious about something that if I was the one who responded I'd blow things completely up. My wife is great at being diplomatic when my fuse has blown. Often find situations where she's led the way although I feel a bit ashamed to say it, as a bloke were meant to always be the one who does (or at least being brought up in the 70/80s we were taught that way)