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Abusive relationships

TheCatWoman

I don't feel like I've ever had a non abusive relationship, I've had 4 long term relationships and whilst the abuse hasn't been physical, its certainly been psychological and only looking back do I see how damaging they've been. I'm so much better off on my own and never want another relationship again.

Does anyone else feel the same?

Parents

  • Yes, I’ve had a father who was psychologically abusive. My ex husband was very different to my father but he too was psychologically abusive. I do not want to have a husband or any other sort of relationship or that nature. I am perfectly happy on my own with my dog, although sometimes I struggle with things to do with home maintenance and I do worry about the future.

    I have executive functioning difficulties and The autism clinic where I had my assessment has given me contact details for two organisations that could provide support for organising and maintaining my home. One organisation is a service you pay for, the other is a charity that provides what I need. I haven’t made any contact with them yet as I can’t face strangers coming into my house and going through things. 

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    I'm really sorry about your experiences. My father was also psychologically abusive and that's why I tend to choose men similar to him. Unfortunately, that's the reality for many people who grew up in abusive environments. Their brains make wrong connections between love and abuse. I really really feel you! 

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  • in reply to ArchaeC

    I'm really sorry about your experiences. My father was also psychologically abusive and that's why I tend to choose men similar to him. Unfortunately, that's the reality for many people who grew up in abusive environments. Their brains make wrong connections between love and abuse. I really really feel you! 

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  • in reply to Evi

    Sorry about your experiences too Evi - it’s a vicious circle. I think I’m just not the sort of person who can thrive in a relationship in which the home space is shared. Sometimes I wish I had a man who would accompany me for days out, lunches or the odd trip abroad, with nothing more to things than that. I’m not particularly good company but probably come across totally differently here, because I’m not under pressure and I’ve time to think of what to say. Other people are too exhausting for me. I’m not too badly off, because some people have been desperately seeking the right person for years and are really unhappy without a partner.