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Why do so many men and boys hate women?

TheCatWoman

Counter terrorism officers are joing with collegues from the NCA to create a task force to catch boys and young men being radicalised into extreme misogynist acts, like school shootings and finding vulnerable young women and girls online and encouraging suicide.

I don't accept that social media is the root of it all, it certainly helps it spread, but I think those attitudes have been around for years, centuries, even millenia. Where does this sense of entitlement come from and how do we protect women and girls from male violence and how do we protect men and boys from these influences and challenge them to see women as people?

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  • Social habitus. Boys are groomed from a young age to believe in gender essentialism: That boys and men are a certain way, that girls and women are a certain way, that this is inherent and can't be changed, that this means they can only be a certain way. Most become rigidly attached to these things, I would say from a fear of not appearing 'man enough' the kind of abuse that come from that, and the benefits that masculinity grants them. Many boys are taught to see girls as being practically another species, as fundamentally different from them. It's easy to see how this grows into a lack of empathy from there, especially with systemic misogyny being taught to them. I would say that the main way to change this is to constantly challenge gender essentialism, teach them to be kind and compassionate, emphasise that these are human traits, not feminine ones. They can't avoid the grooming from the outside world, but any way we can reach out to those in our lives, and have a positive impact, even if it is only in challenging their views, is important. Other than that, it's important for their to be more visible positive male role models, but that's on men to do.

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  • Social habitus. Boys are groomed from a young age to believe in gender essentialism: That boys and men are a certain way, that girls and women are a certain way, that this is inherent and can't be changed, that this means they can only be a certain way. Most become rigidly attached to these things, I would say from a fear of not appearing 'man enough' the kind of abuse that come from that, and the benefits that masculinity grants them. Many boys are taught to see girls as being practically another species, as fundamentally different from them. It's easy to see how this grows into a lack of empathy from there, especially with systemic misogyny being taught to them. I would say that the main way to change this is to constantly challenge gender essentialism, teach them to be kind and compassionate, emphasise that these are human traits, not feminine ones. They can't avoid the grooming from the outside world, but any way we can reach out to those in our lives, and have a positive impact, even if it is only in challenging their views, is important. Other than that, it's important for their to be more visible positive male role models, but that's on men to do.

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