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I struggle with not knowing if I should push myself or accomodate myself

Octopuses.are.aliens

Not really sure how to write this but I guess I'll just start 

I have autism alongside adhd and a mental health diagnosis, i'm mostly independent and live alone and a student currently studying online. I've been to a 'brick' in person uni before and found that pretty challenging prior to being diagnosed

I had alot of support in my past due to mental health issues and now i'm somewhat better with a new diagnosis of ASD and ADHD alongside that i'm viewed as if I should be independent and the general consensus I get from professionals is that I should be working 

I've had psychiatrists write that alot of it is self doubt with me and I find this conflicting in my mind because it's not self doubt, I feel like I don't know how 

Academically, I have alot to show but in other areas theres a big lack 

The problem is is that I don't know if i'm ruling myself out of something I am able to do, when I should be pushing myself abit and when I should be accomodating the fact that I do have disabilities 

I don't know how to honestly say I could do that or to know that I am pushing myself too hard 

Any advice? Interested in hearing your stories too if you feel comfortable sharing 

Parents

  • It’s tricky isn’t it? Getting that balance right is not an easy thing to do. My son and myself deal with this a lot - our instinct is to withdraw from things a lot because we are easily overwhelmed and find facing challenges exhausting -  at the same time that can mean your world shrinks to a very isolated life and the less you do the more scary doing anything starts to feel. So overall I think gently pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone at a rate we can cope with is generally a good idea. Often we will think we don’t have the energy to face going out for example - and the stresses of that - but when we actually do do something like that we’re usually glad we did. 

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  • It’s tricky isn’t it? Getting that balance right is not an easy thing to do. My son and myself deal with this a lot - our instinct is to withdraw from things a lot because we are easily overwhelmed and find facing challenges exhausting -  at the same time that can mean your world shrinks to a very isolated life and the less you do the more scary doing anything starts to feel. So overall I think gently pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone at a rate we can cope with is generally a good idea. Often we will think we don’t have the energy to face going out for example - and the stresses of that - but when we actually do do something like that we’re usually glad we did. 

Children
  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    This is the conclusion I have come to as well Kate Kestrel, the tricky part is finding the right amount of balance which I guess will be different for everyone...is it a bit of a trial and error process, see what works and what doesn't...