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I struggle with not knowing if I should push myself or accomodate myself

Octopuses.are.aliens

Not really sure how to write this but I guess I'll just start 

I have autism alongside adhd and a mental health diagnosis, i'm mostly independent and live alone and a student currently studying online. I've been to a 'brick' in person uni before and found that pretty challenging prior to being diagnosed

I had alot of support in my past due to mental health issues and now i'm somewhat better with a new diagnosis of ASD and ADHD alongside that i'm viewed as if I should be independent and the general consensus I get from professionals is that I should be working 

I've had psychiatrists write that alot of it is self doubt with me and I find this conflicting in my mind because it's not self doubt, I feel like I don't know how 

Academically, I have alot to show but in other areas theres a big lack 

The problem is is that I don't know if i'm ruling myself out of something I am able to do, when I should be pushing myself abit and when I should be accomodating the fact that I do have disabilities 

I don't know how to honestly say I could do that or to know that I am pushing myself too hard 

Any advice? Interested in hearing your stories too if you feel comfortable sharing 

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  • This is quite relateable. I'm late self diagnosed and have achieved a few things in my life, and I often wonder if I would've achieved them or felt like I just had to push through before I knew I was autistic. My life would probably look quite different if it had been identified as a child or even a young man.

    I'm currently in burnout and I'm fairly sure it's a result of doing way too much and not letting myself rest enough, or just take life at a slower pace, which I definitely am doing now, but also wondering if it's too late and I'll be in burnout forever.

    It takes so much time to learn energy management and recognise when things feel 'too much', and also put routines and systems in place that remind us that we may need recovery time later.

    I was talking to my partner about this yesterday and I said that when I feel a little more high energy I have to be careful not to 'overspend' that energy and push myself into overwhelm or worse. It's so easy to get carried away when we're feeling good. Being mindful is useful as it helps us not to overspend, but it's also exhausting to try being mindful of everything single thing we do, and it would be lovely just to be able to do things without worrying if I'm going to pay for it later with a mood dip that finishes my day.

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  • This is quite relateable. I'm late self diagnosed and have achieved a few things in my life, and I often wonder if I would've achieved them or felt like I just had to push through before I knew I was autistic. My life would probably look quite different if it had been identified as a child or even a young man.

    I'm currently in burnout and I'm fairly sure it's a result of doing way too much and not letting myself rest enough, or just take life at a slower pace, which I definitely am doing now, but also wondering if it's too late and I'll be in burnout forever.

    It takes so much time to learn energy management and recognise when things feel 'too much', and also put routines and systems in place that remind us that we may need recovery time later.

    I was talking to my partner about this yesterday and I said that when I feel a little more high energy I have to be careful not to 'overspend' that energy and push myself into overwhelm or worse. It's so easy to get carried away when we're feeling good. Being mindful is useful as it helps us not to overspend, but it's also exhausting to try being mindful of everything single thing we do, and it would be lovely just to be able to do things without worrying if I'm going to pay for it later with a mood dip that finishes my day.

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