Extreme Self Consciousness problems

Hi,

In the last couple of years or so I've become massively self conscious when I am face to face with people. I never used to have an issue with this but I've just become very aware of other people's and my body language, facial expressions and eye contact, and now I can't seem to concentrate at all on when I am face to face with someone. It's like a worm thats suddenly entered my head and I can't get rid of it again. 

I will be slightly trembling, sweating, and extremely tense, my facial muscles twitch or tense up.

What's really uspetting is that I can see the effect that this has on the other person. They look really uncomfortable, sometimes upset, and start to avoid looking at me, and eventually like my neighbours start avoiding me completely. I've been to a psychiatrist and hypnotist but neither has helped and both strongly suggest that I might be imagining the other people's reactions. I know I'm not though, I've had  enough good connections with people over the years to know when someone is comfortable with me or not.

I've tried doing more socialising but it's not helping, the more bad reactions that I receive the more "trauma" that's there for the next one I think.

If I have phone calls with the same people, I'm like a different person, jovial and chatty, so I'm sure my social skills are reasonable.

It feels like I need to see someone who can deal with a phobia, like say spiders, who can just reprogram my brain!

Does anyone else have this same issue or ideas on what I can do?

Thanks for any advice :)

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  • Dear John1973,

    I am sorry to hear that you have been experiencing extreme self consciousness problems when socialising in person. It is good to hear that you feel you can still socialise with people over the phone. We can see that other Online Community users have given you some helpful advice. 

    You may like to have a look at the mental health section of our website which has useful links to information and advice about a range of mental health issues: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health 

    If you feel that you might need some support with your mental health, you can find advice and information on how to go about seeking help, including links to other resources and details of helplines and listening support services, here: www.autism.org.uk/.../seeking-help. 

    If you are interested in counselling (NHS & private), you may like to have a look at the Autism Services Directory: https://www.autism.org.uk/directory under ‘Health & Counsellors’. 

    This guide produced by NAS may be of interest. It collates suggestions on ways professionals can make mental health talking therapies better for autistic people.   

    Content note- the guide contains sections on suicide and self-harm: Good practice guide for professionals delivering therapy

    I hope this is helpful. 

    Kind Regards,

    Rosie Mod

  • Thanks Rosie, I'll look into those links

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