Confusion after interactions

I very definitely experience this! It’s extremely unsettling and I usually ask my husband and son for reassurance about this. I find it very hard to judge how a conversation has gone and I always worry that I’ve done something wrong, or said the wrong thing, or not been friendly enough, or been too talkative or not talkative enough etc etc etc. I often will go away feeling stupid, or that the person doesn’t like me etc. it’s a bit of a nightmare really! So if my husband and son were there I’ll ask for their reassurance and they’ll always help me with that. I’ve also got a bit better over the last couple of years at dealing with it - I still do it but I know to say to myself that I’m just paranoid about these things, and that (as Anthony Hopkins says): “what other people think of me is none of my business”. I TRY to think this - with a little bit of success. There’s that Buddhist thing: ‘practice the art of letting go’ - I try to remember this because I have a strong tendency to ruminate and worry. With practice you can gradually reduce this sort of thing a bit - and learn to let go of the paranoia about what people think of you, and whether or not you may have done something ‘wrong’. We’re autistic and this stuff is hard for us - we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves about it. 

I very definitely experience this! It’s extremely unsettling and I usually ask my husband and son for reassurance about this. I find it very hard to judge how a conversation has gone and I always worry that I’ve done something wrong, or said the wrong thing, or not been friendly enough, or been too talkative or not talkative enough etc etc etc. I often will go away feeling stupid, or that the person doesn’t like me etc. it’s a bit of a nightmare really! So if my husband and son were there I’ll ask for their reassurance and they’ll always help me with that. I’ve also got a bit better over the last couple of years at dealing with it - I still do it but I know to say to myself that I’m just paranoid about these things, and that (as Anthony Hopkins says): “what other people think of me is none of my business”. I TRY to think this - with a little bit of success. There’s that Buddhist thing: ‘practice the art of letting go’ - I try to remember this because I have a strong tendency to ruminate and worry. With practice you can gradually reduce this sort of thing a bit - and learn to let go of the paranoia about what people think of you, and whether or not you may have done something ‘wrong’. We’re autistic and this stuff is hard for us - we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves about it. 

 thank you so much for sharing. 
I think I have found a therapist who is much cheaper. Hopefully this can be my person to talk these things through with