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how to get out my own head

aurelis

Heya,

I just wanted to share for some advice. As someone with autism, my mind is so stuck inside itself. It runs away with itself and I can’t catch up with it sometimes. I want to be able to operate with the affairs around me, and have some more discipline. I’m used to taking lots of things on, and then cramming last minute to complete them. It’s worked well for my life, but i reached a breaking point this year, and realised I lacked routine. It’s a challenge, but I’m trying to get more discipline in my life so I’m not just in my own head all the time. I don’t enjoy this. 

any advice on how I can get out of my head?

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  • Is "getting out of my head" (as you write) the same as "getting off your head" (a common phrase from 20 years ago?)

  • in reply to Number

    I'm not sure what 'getting off your head' means. I am referring to being stuck in my way of thinking, and not able to take in things from the world around me and process things in the right way. I have a strong propensity to want to do things in the way I see things, which can come across as selfish and inconsistent. I struggle to process advice and to take it on properly. I also think I overthink a lot, and I really feel like I am missing out on life by staying within my head. Now I've been made aware more often that people can't work out what I am thinking (because I will make decisions for things and run off with it and think it is clear to the other person, which I think is an autistic thing), I am trying to make sure all my steps are made clear for other people.

  • in reply to aurelis

    You sound GLORIOUSLY autistic.  All the things you describe are shared with me too (and yes, I find these things are often a problem in my everyday life too - quite a bit!!)

    Whilst I had hoped that someone here on the forum (or a "professional") would have been able to "help" me overcome some of the worst "excesses" of my autistic realities, I have come to understand [over the period of nearly 3 years now] that this was never going to happen.....and initially, that frustrated and upset me.  

    I don't think there is a "cure" or "treatment" to mitigate against these things you describe in a safe and sustainable way although I do find that some things and some behaviours are helpful in keeping me best "balanced" when I am around other humans or completing tasks.  Music, speech radio, forward motion, being outside in nature, sleep deprivation, ......and not trying to fight myself all the time.....can all play their part.

    Also, like you I also always try to make sure that all my steps are made clear for other people.  In my case, this simply involves explaining to them that I am "pretty unusual" in my approach and modus operandi (ie the way I go about things.)  Thankfully, although my methods are really quite weird and inexplicable, I do often deliver the required results to peoples satisfaction........so I am granted latitude to be different and weird (most of the time!)

    I wish you luck processing your thoughts and needs on these matters.....it ain't easy!!

    [And finally - fyi - "getting off your head" was a phrase used to describe getting very drunk or otherwise intoxicated to the point that it was dangerous and stupid to do so.]

    Enjoy the rest of your day aurelis.

    Yours

    Number.

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  • in reply to aurelis

    You sound GLORIOUSLY autistic.  All the things you describe are shared with me too (and yes, I find these things are often a problem in my everyday life too - quite a bit!!)

    Whilst I had hoped that someone here on the forum (or a "professional") would have been able to "help" me overcome some of the worst "excesses" of my autistic realities, I have come to understand [over the period of nearly 3 years now] that this was never going to happen.....and initially, that frustrated and upset me.  

    I don't think there is a "cure" or "treatment" to mitigate against these things you describe in a safe and sustainable way although I do find that some things and some behaviours are helpful in keeping me best "balanced" when I am around other humans or completing tasks.  Music, speech radio, forward motion, being outside in nature, sleep deprivation, ......and not trying to fight myself all the time.....can all play their part.

    Also, like you I also always try to make sure that all my steps are made clear for other people.  In my case, this simply involves explaining to them that I am "pretty unusual" in my approach and modus operandi (ie the way I go about things.)  Thankfully, although my methods are really quite weird and inexplicable, I do often deliver the required results to peoples satisfaction........so I am granted latitude to be different and weird (most of the time!)

    I wish you luck processing your thoughts and needs on these matters.....it ain't easy!!

    [And finally - fyi - "getting off your head" was a phrase used to describe getting very drunk or otherwise intoxicated to the point that it was dangerous and stupid to do so.]

    Enjoy the rest of your day aurelis.

    Yours

    Number.

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