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Hi. So my aunt who I hold in very high stead doesn’t really believe I have my autism diagnosis and that I’ve been misdiagnosed and am just anxious and have a trauma response instead because she said I don’t really have the signs of autism cuz she worked with kids and I never presented the same. She keeps comparing me to my cousin who she’s convinced that has autism and ADHD (he’s 21).  

my dad fully believes I am said he’s done a whole lot of research for ages and said I’ve got the markers and have mannerisms and in the way I present. 

I’ve realised I’m a very heavy masker in most situations and am very very rearly myself true authentic self yet I know if I’m fully myself il get taken the mick of. 

Do you guys have any advise? I’m moving soon (hopefully) so I’m hoping I’ll be able to unmasks and finally not feel so tired all the time haha 

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  • I think your aunts response is quite a common one, not just about autism, but people who spend time in a particular job, like nursing, seem to think they know better than doctors and other related professions. I've known so many nurses who self diagnose and treat, who ignore a doctors advice, who make judgemental opinions about people and won't be budged from them. Teachers who know better than anybody else, especially parents about a childs needs.

    I'd try and let your aunts comments go over your head, you can still love and respect her, even though on this subject she's wrong, we're all allowed to be wrong sometimes, maybe as you unmask and become the real authentic you, she'll see a side of you and of autism she's not experienced before.

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  • I think your aunts response is quite a common one, not just about autism, but people who spend time in a particular job, like nursing, seem to think they know better than doctors and other related professions. I've known so many nurses who self diagnose and treat, who ignore a doctors advice, who make judgemental opinions about people and won't be budged from them. Teachers who know better than anybody else, especially parents about a childs needs.

    I'd try and let your aunts comments go over your head, you can still love and respect her, even though on this subject she's wrong, we're all allowed to be wrong sometimes, maybe as you unmask and become the real authentic you, she'll see a side of you and of autism she's not experienced before.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I know i just get annoyed by it. Like you don’t really know what it’s been like for me. How getting my diagnosis really lifted something for me like things all finally made sense but she’s just like nah your not you’re just a bit weird. Like if you don’t want to accept it fine but keep it to yourself cuz at the end of the day a specialist diagnosed me not my mum to get more money and not you.