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Worried about date tomorrow

hypercolius

Hi,

I'm meeting my girlfriend tomorrow. I'm extremely nervous about this. 

This is the first time since I started looking 8 years ago that someone reciprocated my feelings. I've known her since December, and she has constantly been a very positive, warm and caring person to me. I've met her in person before as well. 

We arranged this date in early February (as we live in different cities), she got extremely excited about attending my presentation in Parliament in early March, and we've been planning various activities for the Easter holidays. When I congratulated her with Valentine's day and sent a rose emoji, she liked it and congratulated me with the same thing. 

I'm really nervous about seeing her tomorrow, as I'm afraid I might do something with my autism that will push her away from me or cause her to lose interest. I really like her, and I really want this to work out. The messages she has been sending me discussing a restaraunt I tried to surprise her with were extremely cute, but I'm still worried. 

  • Thank you :)

    I don't know why I'm so nervous. She's been so nice to me that I really shouldn't be this anxious. I've never encountered anyone like her before, but still project it onto everyone who broke my heart before. Even had a nightmare about a previous person today (who is nothing compared to who I'm seeing tomorrow). 

    I stop worrying, though, whenever I remember our interactions, such as her giving me her address and that Valentine's reaction

  • Please do not worry. Just try to relax into the situation Hugging  You have both spoken a little while now; try to carry on this conversation IRL, enjoy discussing mutual interests! I think, going by her responses to you, that she is interested and wants to know you better. So. Deep breaths, and enjoy!! I wish you the very best!! 

  • What an amazing story so far and good of you to share this with us all. I have been with my partner for 27 years so I have very limited advice for you. Just be your amazing self, that’s all you can be and perhaps concentrate on things you both like and have in common.

    Remember she will also feel nervous too so there’s something else you have in common.

    Good luck and I hope you have a fantastic date. 

  • Thank you for your kind replies :)

    No, she doesn't know I'm autistic. 

    I have met her before in person (what a spectacularly beautiful being), but she was never anywhere near as excited about the previous time as now (but still very sweet). Thankfully we're virtually identical, so have a lot to talk about. 

    I've known her for almost 3 months now and she seems different, and so much better and nicer than the other people I tried to do this with, and never got anywhere near as far. 

  • I've never been on a date so have no advice but wanted to wish you the best for tomorrow. I hope you both have a lovely time.

  • It all sounds very positive - just focus on her and try to enjoy it. Wishing you both well.

  • Its an awful long time I've done any dating so not sure I can offer great advice. My best advice would always try to be yourself, assume she doesnt know about you being autistic?