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Dealing with bad news.

mrs.snooks

Just needing some support.

One of my closest friends has just been diagnosed with cancer. I am really strugging at the moment. I have very few friends, so the ones I actually do have are really special and closer to me than some members of my family.

I am overwlemed with grief as I try to support her. At least I have stopped crying uncontrollably. 

Plus work is difficult and my colleagues are very challenging with their negative behaviour and attitudes.

So, what with work and my sadness, it is difficult to remind myself of three positive things to help keep me grounded. I know what I need to do to look after myself and that I am grateful that her chances of cure are good. But I am really sad and don't feel that crying helps. In fact, I almost feel that if I cry I just make myself more triggered.

Thanks in advance.

Mrs Snooks.

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  • Dear All, Thank you so much for your responses. 

    My friend has had her surgery and is just waiting for her results to know what happens next. I went and saw last week and it was okay. I feel more grounded now and better able to support her. 

    Your comments have all been so comforting to me and I would like to thank you all again. I have kept coming back and re-reading them and it has really helped.

    Mrs Snooks

  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    Hello! 
    It is great to hear that you’re doing a bit better. I didn’t see the post before, as I was inactive at that time, but let me just say that I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. Knowing that the prognosis is good doesn’t automatically make it seem all good. Back when my father was diagnosed I didn’t know how to feel, but eventually I was overwhelmed with emotion and then felt bad about it, because “there was no reason for it”. It’s okay to feel negative emotions, whatever the prognosis is. Just allow yourself some time to work through all this, it’ll get better eventually. 

    I wish you and your friend all the best!

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  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    Hello! 
    It is great to hear that you’re doing a bit better. I didn’t see the post before, as I was inactive at that time, but let me just say that I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. Knowing that the prognosis is good doesn’t automatically make it seem all good. Back when my father was diagnosed I didn’t know how to feel, but eventually I was overwhelmed with emotion and then felt bad about it, because “there was no reason for it”. It’s okay to feel negative emotions, whatever the prognosis is. Just allow yourself some time to work through all this, it’ll get better eventually. 

    I wish you and your friend all the best!

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