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Dealing with bad news.

mrs.snooks

Just needing some support.

One of my closest friends has just been diagnosed with cancer. I am really strugging at the moment. I have very few friends, so the ones I actually do have are really special and closer to me than some members of my family.

I am overwlemed with grief as I try to support her. At least I have stopped crying uncontrollably. 

Plus work is difficult and my colleagues are very challenging with their negative behaviour and attitudes.

So, what with work and my sadness, it is difficult to remind myself of three positive things to help keep me grounded. I know what I need to do to look after myself and that I am grateful that her chances of cure are good. But I am really sad and don't feel that crying helps. In fact, I almost feel that if I cry I just make myself more triggered.

Thanks in advance.

Mrs Snooks.

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  • I think it’s normal to feel strong emotions in this situation and I wouldn’t try to fight that. I think that crying is a healthy response to sadness and stress and helpful for the body and mind. Let yourself feel what you feel, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. The better you are feeling the more helpful you will be in supporting your friend. It sounds like the prognosis is good - you have every reason to hope that you and your friend are going to emerge from this and one day it will just be a memory and you can move on with your lives. 

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  • I think it’s normal to feel strong emotions in this situation and I wouldn’t try to fight that. I think that crying is a healthy response to sadness and stress and helpful for the body and mind. Let yourself feel what you feel, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. The better you are feeling the more helpful you will be in supporting your friend. It sounds like the prognosis is good - you have every reason to hope that you and your friend are going to emerge from this and one day it will just be a memory and you can move on with your lives. 

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