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Dealing with bad news.

mrs.snooks

Just needing some support.

One of my closest friends has just been diagnosed with cancer. I am really strugging at the moment. I have very few friends, so the ones I actually do have are really special and closer to me than some members of my family.

I am overwlemed with grief as I try to support her. At least I have stopped crying uncontrollably. 

Plus work is difficult and my colleagues are very challenging with their negative behaviour and attitudes.

So, what with work and my sadness, it is difficult to remind myself of three positive things to help keep me grounded. I know what I need to do to look after myself and that I am grateful that her chances of cure are good. But I am really sad and don't feel that crying helps. In fact, I almost feel that if I cry I just make myself more triggered.

Thanks in advance.

Mrs Snooks.

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  • Dear Mrs Snooks,

    I am extremely sorry you are going through this right now. I have personal experience and know how challenging cancer can be for people to go through, not just those who suffer but those around them who have to watch as it happens.

    I once spoke to an oncologist who reminded me of the single most important thing. It’s got a good survival rate. It’s not terminal, important to keep reminding yourself of this. And another good reminder is to be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself. There’s no right or wrong way to react and everything you are feeling right now is completely normal.

    Lastly, easier said than done I know but try not to over think it. When you think of cancer you naturally think the worst but survival rates are higher these days than thirty years ago. It’s a horrible thing to go through for the cancer patient and family and friends but don’t over think it. Just take it a day at a time, cry when you need to, talk to someone if you need to, don’t go through it on your own.

    Feel free to hit me up if you ever need to chat about how you're feeling my PMs are open. Take care, thinking of you x.

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  • Dear Mrs Snooks,

    I am extremely sorry you are going through this right now. I have personal experience and know how challenging cancer can be for people to go through, not just those who suffer but those around them who have to watch as it happens.

    I once spoke to an oncologist who reminded me of the single most important thing. It’s got a good survival rate. It’s not terminal, important to keep reminding yourself of this. And another good reminder is to be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself. There’s no right or wrong way to react and everything you are feeling right now is completely normal.

    Lastly, easier said than done I know but try not to over think it. When you think of cancer you naturally think the worst but survival rates are higher these days than thirty years ago. It’s a horrible thing to go through for the cancer patient and family and friends but don’t over think it. Just take it a day at a time, cry when you need to, talk to someone if you need to, don’t go through it on your own.

    Feel free to hit me up if you ever need to chat about how you're feeling my PMs are open. Take care, thinking of you x.

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