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Some bits fit = often feel rejected,low self esteem, feeling left out,feel I'm not good enough,feel uncomfortable when praised,don't like taking risks, people pleaser,difficult starting things  when I might fail-avoidant re further education(fear of failure due to executive functioning  difficulties),

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  • I think a lot of the time I expect to fail, or at least not do very well and when I do, do well I feel like I've got away with it. I'm not good with compliments and praise either, my first thought, is 'what are you after?' I got a lot more confident about recieving criticism at uni, but that was because it was always positive and telling me how I could better present myself in essays rather than telling me how awful I was. I gave me the confidence to challenge a lecturer who undermarked me and I got an upwardly revised mark.

    I'm not a physical risk taker and I'm definately not an adreniline junkie, why would I want to jump out of a plane, abseil or bungee jump, do whitewater rafting or whatever just to know I'm alive! I've been in enough real life danger, enough times to be glad that I'm alive and I don't want any more almost died experiences thankyou very much.

    I'm not in a rut, I'm happily ploughing my own furrow, by myself, without interferance and if I want help I'll ask for it. I think there's to much emphasis on challenging oneself and "doing things!" seemingly for the sake of being able to say you've done so and get some sort of brownie points from people who's opinions don't really matter. 

    That being said there are some very real problems caused by lack of confidence and low self esteem as I know all to well.

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  • I think a lot of the time I expect to fail, or at least not do very well and when I do, do well I feel like I've got away with it. I'm not good with compliments and praise either, my first thought, is 'what are you after?' I got a lot more confident about recieving criticism at uni, but that was because it was always positive and telling me how I could better present myself in essays rather than telling me how awful I was. I gave me the confidence to challenge a lecturer who undermarked me and I got an upwardly revised mark.

    I'm not a physical risk taker and I'm definately not an adreniline junkie, why would I want to jump out of a plane, abseil or bungee jump, do whitewater rafting or whatever just to know I'm alive! I've been in enough real life danger, enough times to be glad that I'm alive and I don't want any more almost died experiences thankyou very much.

    I'm not in a rut, I'm happily ploughing my own furrow, by myself, without interferance and if I want help I'll ask for it. I think there's to much emphasis on challenging oneself and "doing things!" seemingly for the sake of being able to say you've done so and get some sort of brownie points from people who's opinions don't really matter. 

    That being said there are some very real problems caused by lack of confidence and low self esteem as I know all to well.

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