It's not always easy

I'm going to ask some awkward questions, please don't take them as personal slights, but as a way of gaining a different perspective.

What achievements do you feel you should have had and why are they important?

Who says you havent achieved things and that you're a failure?

Are the opinions of those who think you're a failure important and why?

I'm going to ask some awkward questions, please don't take them as personal slights, but as a way of gaining a different perspective.

What achievements do you feel you should have had and why are they important?

Who says you havent achieved things and that you're a failure?

Are the opinions of those who think you're a failure important and why?

TheCatWoman said:

Who says you havent achieved things and that you're a failure?

It's primarily  a self evaluation, based on things like never having had paid employment,and having  inferior academic qualifications by modern standards. That's toxically blended with comparisons with my father.My father? Retired as diplomatic equivalent  of a 2star general. Compared to that I'm a complete and utter failure.

  A better,stronger,person would've overcome the effects of the bullying related trauma. Then there's the fact that I'm a fraud who dishonestly interacts with genuinely very intelligent persons.