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I want to unmask

Ellie

There's so much I want to say about this but I'm working out how to word it out on here. So, I'm just going to keep it brief and blunt. 

I have been masking my autism for many years and I want to unmask. But I don't know how. 

Please help.

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  • Just to say I'm in the same boat - you're not alone!

    I'm suffering burnout and working out a healthier existence - which will involve unmasking - but expecting it to take a long time (years?) to work out what my authentic self is.

    As a child/teenager I was very gaffe-prone, clumsy with words and I've learnt to be so careful with words since. I don't want to unravel all of that because I prefer my new sensitive, considerate self. But keeping all my thoughts, opinions and quirky methods hidden and repressed is no good. So I think it'll be one thing at a time, judging the situation. And allowing as much alone/recovery time as possible after occasions of tricky/brave/intentional unmasking.

    I hope you find some joy with this.

  • in reply to boaty

    I feel I have done stuff because I should instead of because I want to. That included entering into group chats about the inane stuff that allists talk about. For me the solution has been to not engage any more. I found at a club I joined, that if I didn't join in but took myself off to be quiet and alone, that people were understanding and left me alone. Only problem is they niw seem to think i dont want to talk at all. Now I miss grown up serious discussions.Cant win.

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  • in reply to boaty

    I feel I have done stuff because I should instead of because I want to. That included entering into group chats about the inane stuff that allists talk about. For me the solution has been to not engage any more. I found at a club I joined, that if I didn't join in but took myself off to be quiet and alone, that people were understanding and left me alone. Only problem is they niw seem to think i dont want to talk at all. Now I miss grown up serious discussions.Cant win.

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