Son is 25 year old and really hard to live with

NAS66084 said:

he just cant cope with the working world anymore

Can you tell us specifically what he struggles with? That should give us something to work with for advice.

Communication skills can be learned but he has to work at it. A good start is this book:

The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships - Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism - Temple Grandin, Sean Barron (2005)
ISBN: 9781941765388

There are also a few good books on working skills for autists (or people with Aspergers as a slightly older term is used):

An Aspie's Guide to Getting and Keeping a Job - Attwood, Tony, Evans, Craig R., Lesko, Anita (2015)
eISBN 9781784501303

Helping Adults with Asperger's Syndrome Get & Stay Hired - Barbara Bissonnette (2015)
ISBN 9781849057547

Reading all this and working to apply what is learned is not easy but well worth the effort - I would suggest getting your some to setup a timetable to read and apply this stuff and report to you each evening on progress.

You would also be useful for role playing situations to help then get some practice on what they learn.

I don’t know- I’m not sure forcing yourself to communicate in a way that doesn’t come naturally is the solution- it will likely lead to lots of masking, exhaustion and burnout. I think it is better to find a work place where less masking is needed. It should be a two way effort- it’s not just up to autistic people to conform but the manager and colleagues at work should also be a little understanding.

At least this is what worked for me- over the years those places where I flourished was when I could be myself and was respected and accepted for who I am

At least this is what worked for me- over the years those places where I flourished was when I could be myself and was respected and accepted for who I am

I should specify that I am a scientist working/studying in a research lab