Son is 25 year old and really hard to live with

I’m 27 and autistic- it can be hard to cope with working life- I am studying again now though. If you give some more detail I might be able to better understand the struggles. The one thing I can say is that it is so important to be in a good supportive environment at work or university- it changes everything and if the environment or people are not right and it can’t be made better then sometimes the only way to improve things is to find a different work or study place. I had some bad experiences in the past and had a really bad experience for the first year of my current PhD - I still wanted to try and make it work but I’m unable to continue now (lab closing etc) but I think it is a blessing in disguise - I was not respected, didn’t feel understood or connected and it was really hard to work with my supervisor- i felt misunderstood and discriminated against at times and powerless to make my project progress as I had very little freedom to give my opinion and take matters into my hands. It has been hard to accept I can’t continue but I also feel so much happier not having to deal with my supervisor anymore and I have prioritised a supportive supervisor and environment for my new PhD position even though it means going overseas and lot of uncertainty- I’m actually excited about this change !! I worked with this supervisor before and had a really good time and it just shows how important the environment is. 

You also mention it is hard to live with your son- why? I think it’s not uncommon- my mum and I were super close but when I briefly lived with her again after university, it was a disaster- I think sometimes when children grow up, it can be good to have some space to become independent and moving out can be really positive- my mum and I are now much closer again - we didn’t speak for almost a year after our failed living together again attempt. I think it was really hard for her to see me struggle as I was going through a hard time and because it was my mum, it made me pull myself together less and I think I somehow wanted her to fix things but of course she couldn’t. Then I also wanted to be left alone at same time etc and it was just really difficult for both of us. I think it can help to be away from parents and to get independence- it is a hard step but i think it can be very good. Would that be an option? 

I’m 27 and autistic- it can be hard to cope with working life- I am studying again now though. If you give some more detail I might be able to better understand the struggles. The one thing I can say is that it is so important to be in a good supportive environment at work or university- it changes everything and if the environment or people are not right and it can’t be made better then sometimes the only way to improve things is to find a different work or study place. I had some bad experiences in the past and had a really bad experience for the first year of my current PhD - I still wanted to try and make it work but I’m unable to continue now (lab closing etc) but I think it is a blessing in disguise - I was not respected, didn’t feel understood or connected and it was really hard to work with my supervisor- i felt misunderstood and discriminated against at times and powerless to make my project progress as I had very little freedom to give my opinion and take matters into my hands. It has been hard to accept I can’t continue but I also feel so much happier not having to deal with my supervisor anymore and I have prioritised a supportive supervisor and environment for my new PhD position even though it means going overseas and lot of uncertainty- I’m actually excited about this change !! I worked with this supervisor before and had a really good time and it just shows how important the environment is. 

You also mention it is hard to live with your son- why? I think it’s not uncommon- my mum and I were super close but when I briefly lived with her again after university, it was a disaster- I think sometimes when children grow up, it can be good to have some space to become independent and moving out can be really positive- my mum and I are now much closer again - we didn’t speak for almost a year after our failed living together again attempt. I think it was really hard for her to see me struggle as I was going through a hard time and because it was my mum, it made me pull myself together less and I think I somehow wanted her to fix things but of course she couldn’t. Then I also wanted to be left alone at same time etc and it was just really difficult for both of us. I think it can help to be away from parents and to get independence- it is a hard step but i think it can be very good. Would that be an option?