Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi could moderators please remove this thread please. I have received much good advice thank you but would like it removed if possible
Thank you[Moderator note: It generally is our policy not to delete whole threads as it deletes all the replies from other users as well, but I have locked the thread now so there can be no new responses - Ross - mod]
sometimes relationships cant recover from bad historical events. if he feels his mum has antagonised or been bad to him in the past he has every right to shun her now and hold it against her. whether he can ever forgive is all on him, perhaps he never had a bond with her, perhaps never had good moments to remember for him to bring it back, perhaps he never got the help he needed like most men in society always gets emotionally neglected and isolated so men often turn more angry and hold grudges due to how society neglects them anyway.but if he feels so unforgiving against her and mad at her, then perhaps he should just cut relations alltogether and no longer see her? .... if hes still seeing her its not really that bad, a bad past relation would make him cut off all ties and disown her and not bother visiting. the fact he still visits shows its not that bad, and if its not that bad then yeah maybe he needs to consider forgiving her.... either way, he faces a choice, forgive her and let the past be the past... or dont forgive her and cut ties and stop visiting... seems a 2 branch simple solution.
Thank you for you response and advice. I do agree that life hasn't been easy for him and as you say I cannot force him to forgive but equally the way he is treating my mum seems cruel.