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How do you stim / self soothe?

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I’m very stressed, constantly, harmfully. I’m 56 and stopped stimming as a child because I was told not to by my mother. I only remember rocking and eating toothpaste off a tissue. I feel I would benefit from letting myself stim but can’t think of the ways I used to do it. Can people please tell me how they self soothe so I can try different things? Thanks Steph 

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  • I pick at my fingers a lot, to the point  where they bleed and I regret doing it. Then do it again. Also fiddle with stuff on the desk while working, anything from pens to nail clippers, usually taking them apart and putting them together over and over.

    One thing I'm thinking might be another stim (not just for me) is scrolling. I wonder if autists might find it more "addictive" as it's an outlet and an escape? I'm terrible for losing a lot of time if I start Looking at news, twitter, Facebook etc. So i try and consciously avoid them.

  • in reply to Autisician

    I was wondering about this the other day, I never used to spend as much time scrolling as I do now, so does it take the place of a 'fidget' device?

  • in reply to Tally

    I think it's definitely more likely to be a problem for us as we tend to obsess and get fixation (monotropism I guess at the root of it) so can't always break away form things.

    For example I like to go lure fishing as it's a great escape to somewhere quiet doing something I love, I'll sometimes spend hours longer than planned as I can't get myself out of something I really enjoy.

    Never worked out if that sort of issue  was the obsessive nature of SPINs, or maybe a Stim or a bit of both!

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  • in reply to Tally

    I think it's definitely more likely to be a problem for us as we tend to obsess and get fixation (monotropism I guess at the root of it) so can't always break away form things.

    For example I like to go lure fishing as it's a great escape to somewhere quiet doing something I love, I'll sometimes spend hours longer than planned as I can't get myself out of something I really enjoy.

    Never worked out if that sort of issue  was the obsessive nature of SPINs, or maybe a Stim or a bit of both!

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