Dear all,
I have a very loving husband who also respects and understands my autism. Yet in recent years I have encountered a problem for which I cannot find a solution and which causes me a lot of stress, sleep problems and therefore exhaustion.
My husband's job (own company) means that he not only works a lot, but is also away very irregularly. He is gone several mornings a week around 5am, and several evenings until midnight or later. We have two children and of course I am solely responsible for them at that time.
But the fact that he's away a lot isn't the worst thing, but that it is irregular and unpredictable (it depends on the weather). So I almost never know what the next day will look like, let alone the next week. I also never know far in advance when he will and will not be home.
I feel that I am doing my utmost to understand this and deal with it, but it weighs heavily on me mentally that there is no structure, and above all: that it is hopeless. It doesn't look like this will change in the coming years. It seems as if I am a boat that has to drift along in a wild sea, never knowing where I will end up.
How would you solve this? How could I give my autistic mind that loves structure and clarity and predictability some peace in this? Without blaming or putting too much pressure on my dear husband who works so hard? (he already deals with a lot because because of my autism I cannot do a full-time job and I earn much less money than him)
