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Prevented from pursuing special interests?

Ne6us

Has anyone ever experienced something that has prevented you from pursuing your special interests? 

I have found that depression and overwhelm/sensory & cognitive overload stemming from becoming a parent and also having extreme relationship issues, has made me lose interest in absolutely everything. If I am having a good day I might listen to one of my favourite bands or artists but it soon wears off.

I'm wondering, have you ever had a period of time when you've completely stopped pursuing any of your special interests? I used to be extremely interested in learning anything and everything about human nature - psychology, philosophy, culture, etc. Now I feel like my sense of wonder has been shattered, maybe by too much reality/demands on the part of the brain that controls practical, in-the-moment decision-making, at the expense of higher order thinking?

I also have severe memory issues, whereas previously I had a good memory for information. 

Sorry not trying to be a downer, genuine question. I'm undiagnosed so I wonder if I can be truly autistic if my special interests are on the back burner. 

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  • Yes! The main reason why I can’t do my favorite things and concentrate on my hobbies is child. My daughter wants to play with someone, she gets bored, she is naughty. Thank goodness I’m not alone with her. But this is also an issue in my relationship, my husband does not like the fact that I want to be completely alone for at least 1 hour per day. Preferably 2-3 hours. I can’t cope, if I don’t have it everyday. I tried to explain that it’s not that I don’t love them, but I need it. I also make sure that he has time for his friends and watching football. I know that if I don’t take time alone, I would either explode or totally shut down. Before I got my child I could sit half day without food, drink and bathroom and just work on my project. I don’t remember when last time I had such a luxury to have half day to work on something. Now it’s like if I have my time alone I usually relax with relaxing music or in silence. Best late evening. But if I start working on a project such as graphic design, and someone interrupts, then I leave it being upset and it takes me a lot of time to come back to it and finish or I even don’t finish it at all. But to not stay too negative about the inability to pursue my hobbies and interest as I would like, I always try to turn something negative into positive. For example I offer my daughter doing something that I also like such as drawing or building with blocks. Others when they see the little houses I built they say, that I should be an architect. I love houses, dollhouses etc. and yes I wanted to be an architect until my mom told me that I will fail. But this is a different story. At least my daughter loves the houses and plays there eagerly.

  • in reply to Alien0n3arth

    I have two little ones, 1 and 3. I also work. All I have the energy for is to feed, dress and watch them, I sometimes muster the energy to play or draw with them. I wish I could take time in a silent room but I almost never get this opportunity. So I I shut down and do only the essential things 

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