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Prevented from pursuing special interests?

Ne6us

Has anyone ever experienced something that has prevented you from pursuing your special interests? 

I have found that depression and overwhelm/sensory & cognitive overload stemming from becoming a parent and also having extreme relationship issues, has made me lose interest in absolutely everything. If I am having a good day I might listen to one of my favourite bands or artists but it soon wears off.

I'm wondering, have you ever had a period of time when you've completely stopped pursuing any of your special interests? I used to be extremely interested in learning anything and everything about human nature - psychology, philosophy, culture, etc. Now I feel like my sense of wonder has been shattered, maybe by too much reality/demands on the part of the brain that controls practical, in-the-moment decision-making, at the expense of higher order thinking?

I also have severe memory issues, whereas previously I had a good memory for information. 

Sorry not trying to be a downer, genuine question. I'm undiagnosed so I wonder if I can be truly autistic if my special interests are on the back burner. 

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  • Pregnancy and childbirth really does a number on the female body. My partner, who had amassed over 900 teas, stopped drinking it entirely because the tastes had changed, plus her memory was fubar for at least a year afterwards.

    Minor in comparison but evidence that this does change people in all sorts of weird ways.

    My advice is to stop questioning the change and look at what is impacting on your ability to lead day to day life, tackle those bits first and then stop and consider more nuanced things.

  • in reply to Paul P

    Yes I'm English and an avid tea drinker but couldn't touch it during pregnancy. Thankfully that's got better now! 

    I'm finding I can't remember things from my childhood that were important to me. I also can't remember what I did last week. I need to be reminded and then I will recall. Also information and facts, I used to have a great memory for those which formed part of my identity. Now I can't remember at all.

    Yes I should try and solve my everyday issues. There must be a way. I'm just so overwhelmed.

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  • in reply to Paul P

    Yes I'm English and an avid tea drinker but couldn't touch it during pregnancy. Thankfully that's got better now! 

    I'm finding I can't remember things from my childhood that were important to me. I also can't remember what I did last week. I need to be reminded and then I will recall. Also information and facts, I used to have a great memory for those which formed part of my identity. Now I can't remember at all.

    Yes I should try and solve my everyday issues. There must be a way. I'm just so overwhelmed.

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  • in reply to Ne6us

    Being overwhelmed is the natural state for a parent. I certainly wasn't ready for it, but one thing I did find is that routines are the lifesaver. Feed at X time, bed at Y time, etc. Helps the kid as well, as does getting them into nursery as soon as you can afford to. That couple of hours break in a day is a life saver and it helps thr kid develop social skills