Apologies if I'm mistaken NAS91725... In your original post (before it was edited), I think you had omitted to mention that your daughter was stealing your debit card to pay for her weekly theatre visits.
I believe the responses you received may have been different if that information had been included.
Obviously, it is not OK that your daughter has been stealing your debit card.
As a parent, I previously found myself in a slightly similar situation with my adult son. He would use my debit card (with my knowledge and consent) to purchase groceries. However, whilst he was out grocery shopping, he would use my debit card to purchase items for himself that I hadn't consented to. At the time, I was on an incredibly tight budget. There were numerous occasions when I would find myself in a financial pickle because the balance in my bank account was no longer sufficient to pay the bills that I had budgeted for.
I didn't begrudge my son treating himself, but it was on the understanding that he asked me first, and that I could obviously afford it. It took time for my son to understand this. What helped was for me to write down my monthly income and expenses, and to go through it with my son.
In the event that my son ever flies the nest, then I think it's important he has an understanding of budgeting and managing household finances. When I moved out of the family home, this was something I'd had to figure out for myself through trial and error.
In the event that my son ever flies the nest, then I think it's important he has an understanding of budgeting and managing household finances. When I moved out of the family home, this was something I'd had to figure out for myself through trial and error.
