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"Carefully Neutral" - How to Avoid Implications

Abbie

Looking for advice here. ND folks keep hearing words, sentences and meanings that I never said at all or ever intended. Telling them they're mistaken or they're jumping to conclusions, explaining what I actually mean, using my words more literally... None of these solutions work. If anything it just gets them more angry. Does anyone here know how to go about conversations in a more I suppose mechanical sort of way? One where they won't hear anything more than what I'm actually saying?

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  • It's tricky, I don't think there is an answer other than to keep trying. 

    I've been accused of implying or inferring stuff and I'm like erm no, if I meant that I would've said it.  I had to walk away from a friendship earlier in the year were I was accused of being upset with someone, I wasn't, they were upset with me.  Why they couldn't just say that is beyond me.  In the end I just thought I don't have the spoons for this and have distanced myself.

    To me conversation should be two way so you have to meet each other half way if one side isn't prepared to do that then there isn't a lot you can do.  

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  • It's tricky, I don't think there is an answer other than to keep trying. 

    I've been accused of implying or inferring stuff and I'm like erm no, if I meant that I would've said it.  I had to walk away from a friendship earlier in the year were I was accused of being upset with someone, I wasn't, they were upset with me.  Why they couldn't just say that is beyond me.  In the end I just thought I don't have the spoons for this and have distanced myself.

    To me conversation should be two way so you have to meet each other half way if one side isn't prepared to do that then there isn't a lot you can do.  

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