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Justbe

Hi,

I was wondering if you could please give me some advice. 

How can I manage my fear of being judged by people ? I wish that I didn't care about it, but I do. 

I carry whilst out, what is probably seen as a children's backpack (because of its theme). I'm in my fifties. This theme comforts me, but it makes me anxious too, because I fear other people's reactions. And I don't like drawing attention to myself. 

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  • I used to feel like this as well. Now I just don't give an F of what people think about me. Nobody is perfect and honestly if being normal means to be boring and bland I would rather be different and weird all day. 

    My advice is just be yourself and if people have a hard time accepting that then they are not meant to be people in your life. If we value the opinions of others so much and it's negative it's like tying anchors to our feet and it weighs us down. I say this as someone who hates judgmental people but you know what? It's their loss judging you rather than taking the time to know you and get a good friend out of it.

    I no longer let people's judgement ruin my life and upset me. They aren't worth it. Blush

  • in reply to Grace

    Thank you. Maybe I'll get there in time. This is all new to me. 

    It's not just people that I know that I worry about. It's people I don't know, like people on the bus or in shops. 

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  • in reply to Justbe

    I think it is a time thing. With people you know and the strangers on the street.. You can't change their opinion and you gain nothing from worrying about it. What's important is what you know about yourself and the people who know you and who matter will agree with you and like you for you.

    I've found the older I've got - 27 now - I care less about what people think about me.