Bereavement

A couple of weeks ago. He was my last surviving grandparent, the longest lived by about a decade but I don't feel as if I was grieving the way I expected. All of the immediate family were in tears at the commital ceremony, apart from, I think, me. Do any of you have similar experience? I'm a little worried I might be a cyborg.

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  • Hi there *waves* 

    I have had an experience of this. When I was about 9 my grandfather passed away and for quite some time I didn't really feel anything. I think the concept of *never* seeing someone again and someone just being *gone* was too huge for me to comprehend. 

    But as the months wore on and the idea settled in more, I began to feel it more deeply and start to grieve, even start to cry. I remember at the time though feeling very 'othered' because my sister made me feel ashamed that I wasn't behaving 'like everyone else' eg. crying and being really sad. And that made me very self conscious and question why I was so weird.

    I think there's no right and wrong way to do it, let the feelings sit with you for a bit, it might all sink in eventually - you just need to wait and see. 

    Sorry for your loss x 

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  • Hi there *waves* 

    I have had an experience of this. When I was about 9 my grandfather passed away and for quite some time I didn't really feel anything. I think the concept of *never* seeing someone again and someone just being *gone* was too huge for me to comprehend. 

    But as the months wore on and the idea settled in more, I began to feel it more deeply and start to grieve, even start to cry. I remember at the time though feeling very 'othered' because my sister made me feel ashamed that I wasn't behaving 'like everyone else' eg. crying and being really sad. And that made me very self conscious and question why I was so weird.

    I think there's no right and wrong way to do it, let the feelings sit with you for a bit, it might all sink in eventually - you just need to wait and see. 

    Sorry for your loss x 

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